multiple partners.....eek!!
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multiple partners.....eek!!
| Wed, 10-03-2007 - 10:50am |
okay ladies (and gentlemen, i guess) so here's the deal- is it wrong to sleep with more than one guy at a time? I'm kinda seeing two guys and i'm not looking for anything serious and they both know that. i have fun with both of them and protection is used but i feel like this is just a little bit weird. i know guys do it all the time but i'm kinda strugglin with the whole thing. it's so

Is it "wrong"? No.
Is it "wrong for you"? Maybe.
IMO, as long as you are clear with both of them that you aren't in an exclusive relationship, and are using protection to prevent pregnancy and STI's, you're good to go.
The closest I came to this situation was in my early 20's - dating two guys, but one developed into something pretty serious. I broke it off with the just for fun guy when my feelings about the other one started changing.
I agree with Sisfox, long as they both understand you are not exclusive to any, and you use protection, I feel you are free to do as you please as you don't have any further obligation to either. Now some would argue that if you're sleeping with on, you have an obligation to tell them about the other, but I disagree. I think that as long as you're not in a committed relationship, all is fair game. You are free to do what you like.
I actually had my first experience at this exact situation over the summer.......I am 39, never married...have been in serious relationships..one lasted for 5years....but noone serious over the past 3 years.
If you are soley interested in sex....your call. If on the other hand you want something more you might want to re-evaluate. Odds are that sooner or later one or both will find out about the other one. So there is risk that both might go away. Not all guys have sex with two women concurrently. Doesn't someone at some point feel betrayed??
Sounds like something inside is telling you that it might not be the best thing for you. Trust your heart and what that quiet voice is telling you inside.