Must Love Dogs

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Must Love Dogs
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Wed, 12-28-2005 - 10:31pm

I just rented "Must Love Dogs" and what struck me was how John Cusack told Diane Lane on their second date that he wanted to cut out the small talk and to get to the heart of things. I realized that on my dates that is what I have done (I'm 52) and seemed to have scared most of my dates away doing that. I sense that even though women profess wanting an intimate relationship that they need to do that in steps, gradually. I come open, honest, direct and that seems to scare women.

I am curious what have been your experiencs and/or how would you respond to the John Cusack approach? BTW on these dates have been after we review each other's match.com profiles and have talked on the phone.

Mark

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mhash
Sun, 01-01-2006 - 10:34pm

I do understand now what you were trying to say; thanks for the clarification. I read it originally to say that if you don't completely bare your soul on the first couple of dates, then you're not an honest, open person...that is what I was taking issue with. I actually do ask/talk about my dealbreakers upfront (to the extent they are not clear in their profile)...but of course, at that point you have no idea if the other person is telling the truth or not, so I take their answers with a big grain of salt.

As I posted to Mark earlier in this thread, I agree it's a matter of finding someone who has a compatible style to yours. Someone who discloses too much too soon makes me uncomfortable. I don't think either style is wrong; they are just different.

Sheri

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