My Breakup Plan

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Registered: 02-26-2011
My Breakup Plan
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Sat, 01-07-2012 - 6:44pm

Well, well, well. I am down to the wire.

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Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 01-07-2012 - 7:33pm
I turned down sex last night, too, mostly because I really wasn't feeling up to company. When he insisted that he could bring me out of my funk, I had to tell him the truly unsexy reason- a yeast infection. It was the truth, although I suspect he didn't believe me. You could use that with Mr. Smith, as unpleasant as it is.

I'd say break it off before you go to the airport. The way he behaves, he may not be all that upset. He doesn't seem to be all that invested in the relationship.
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Registered: 02-26-2011
Sat, 01-07-2012 - 10:10pm

Unbelievably, Shy, he called about an hour and a half ago to tell me the flight is delayed!

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 01-07-2012 - 11:22pm
Doesn't stress make them appear? It truly could have been your body's reaction to him coming to see you. Now let's just hope he doesn't want to just do everything he can without kissing you!

Kind of unrelated, but does it ever amaze you how different guys can be in bed? One can be amazing while another is just horrible. With all of the information out there, they can't not know how our bodies work. It's all about their personalities and how selfish or giving they are. I've only been with two guys who I'd call truly horrible in bed and they were both very selfish outside of the bedroom as well.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Sun, 01-08-2012 - 1:42am

EXACTLY!

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 01-08-2012 - 9:35am

I think each person we have sex with is going to be different .. We have to actually tell a man what we want. They cant read minds and if they are having sex with a different women they wont know what each one needs in bed...

Most of my life i have told a man or showed him or guided

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Sun, 01-08-2012 - 10:30am
I'm not talking about specifics, Free. I'm talking about how some guys have no idea that we are supposed to be enjoying it at all. I'm very good at speaking up as well, and I've been with guys who completely ignored it for their own sake. Then you have a range of guys- some are slow and sweet and some like it fast and furious. That's more about personality than knowledge. I do think that reveals something about their personality outside the bedroom as well.

Marina, even though this guy grew up in a different time, he's had access to a computer for a great many years now. There's no excuse for him not to learn! And if it comes up, you should tell him that.
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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 01-08-2012 - 11:01am

yes; so true..

I have been with men who were duds and men who were off the charts..in bed.. I am not sure I could settle now for duds and the aging process does not help in that area.. Most men over 50 I have experienced and talk to and women who have men over 50 say that the man needs those male enhancing drugs.which is okay but alot of the times they dont work.

So I am thinking if I ever get a new guy that sort of worries me a bit because not sure if men can do that much in bed anymore.

My last boyfriend had health issues and the sex went down the drain quickly among other things so I left him. I just cant take someone not trying or me getting rejected.. So yeah; some men are just selfish.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Sun, 01-08-2012 - 3:26pm

Let me reassure that most men I've dated in my life were over 50 at the time, and I've rarely seen men dependent on Cialis or Viagra or anything else. True enough they may not have the physical energy to keep going after an hour, but it's not an erection issue in my experience.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Sun, 01-08-2012 - 4:10pm
An HOUR!? Maybe when I was 20, but these days if it lasts more than 15-20 minutes, I'm sore!
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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 01-08-2012 - 5:00pm

I am with shy. An hour??? Biologically men cant last an hour but women can with rests in between.


I dont know any man over 50 who can last an hour unless he is Hercules...(lol)

Besides how do you know your men are not taking viagra Marina??

Maybe its the men in NY.. and the bad water we have here.....

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