My crush....

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Registered: 06-19-2006
My crush....
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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 9:55am

is only 25....

*Sigh*

How much does age matter?

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Registered: 06-24-2005
In reply to: kcol68
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 10:22am

By the way you stated it I'm guessing you're older than he his, by at least a few years.

This is one of those issues that people feel passionately about. Those who have a serious relationship with someone of a significantly different age defend that age is not a big deal. Those who have one that didn't work out say that it's a huge deal.

However most agree on a couple things. First, the potential success depends on similar life goals and timelines. Kids? When? Marriage, ever? If so, when? New career that could mean a lot of moving around? If two people are on the same wavelenghts, then age isn't a huge factor. Maturity is the second thing here. We all mature differently, this varies as much in people of one gender as it does comparitively between genders. Some 25 year old guys are still very very immature and not capable of a serious relationship, especially with an older woman. Some guys in their mid-20's are VERY capable of a serious relationsip.

Of course if all the factors line up and you both like each other and don't have a problem with the age difference, than go for it. However if one or both of you becomes bothered by the years that seperate you it could prove a distraction from the relationship itself.

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Registered: 06-19-2006
In reply to: kcol68
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 10:44am
I'm 31....
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Registered: 06-24-2005
In reply to: kcol68
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 11:16am
That's only 6 years...if you're interested I say go for it and start getting to know him, like you normally would!
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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: kcol68
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 11:35am

What is his maturity relative to his age?? You're getting to know the guy in a group therapy type of class where this kind of thing should be or become apparent. My question is more rhetorical and something for you to think about because I know you cant talk about that stuff on here.

My boyfriend will be 25 in December and he's an "older" man than my 25 year old ex or my 28 year old ex. Older means maturity in this case..the 28 year old still cant find his head which seems to be permanently logged up his rear end. (I know this only by hearsay as people tell me about these guys sometimes...as if I care..but whatever..my friends confuse me sometimes). Before R, I was interested in a 29 year old guy with a 7 year old son and he was still out partying, disrespecting women and sleeping around....huge sigh. Old Age doesnt always equate maturity.

JMO

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Registered: 06-19-2006
In reply to: kcol68
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 11:48am

Yep, you are right. I will have to get to know him, because at this point, that is all I can do.

I guess I was slighty down becuase from my experience, the younger the guy is, the more immature they are. But I know that is not always the case.

Plus, it's just a crush. Something may or may not come of it and I guess I am worrrying too much about things that should not be an issue right now. I tend to do that a lot....

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Registered: 07-28-2006
In reply to: kcol68
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 12:20pm

You're right, it is just a crush right now, but just keep in mind too that it takes men a lot longer to mature than women.