My crushes

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Registered: 07-16-2001
My crushes
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Sat, 04-12-2014 - 11:32am
Why aren't things just easy for us?? I think I have a couple of crushes. I don't even know if I'd want to date either of these guys, but I would like to flirt a little more. I haven't been brave enough yet. The first one I mentioned on Ruby's post. I've known him casually for several years. Met him through his brother, who pursued me even though he was married. I've always kind of had a thing for this guy (J), but never acted on it. He moved away and has just recently moved back. I can't decide if he's just being friendly or if the glances and eye contact/smiles are signals I should be picking up on. He's never done anything inappropriate like other guys tend to do when they're trying to just get in my pants, so that's good. The other guy is a friend of my girlfriend that I play trivia with. I haven't talked to him much, but he's come to sit with us several times after trivia. Never stays too late. He was briefly seeing my friend's cousin, which just made me go ick. She climbs on anything that moves. Last Thursday, he and I actually talked and he seems like a decent guy. Again, the eye contact and smiles are something I can't read well. I know the second guy says he doesn't want a relationship with anyone, but he was dating someone recently. I don't know if I'd go out with him. Just flirting. The first guy...I think he might be a big teddy bear smooshy, easily hurt kinda guy who pretends not to be. I think that's why I haven't made a move yet. I like him as a person. I don't wanna mess that up. There is a third guy. Another friend of my girlfriend. Problem is- I think he wants to talk to me, but doesn't seem to have the balls to. He's cute. I'd probably date him. But I have a pretty strong personality. If he can't talk to me, we wouldn't work out. Now that my last guy FINALLY got the hint that I don't want him back (I hope...it's been since January), I think I'm getting my groove back. I just need to put it into action. I can't wait for summer!

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Fri, 04-18-2014 - 10:18am
So guy #1 is interested. That is clear. Now to see WHAT he's interested in! I had a very good night last night. :)
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Registered: 01-02-2012
In reply to: rubysat
Wed, 04-16-2014 - 3:49pm
Hey Julia! For me, The Stones all the way. And my friend is just as die-hard about Pearl Jam. :-) Rock chicks. ;-)
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Registered: 03-24-2003
In reply to: juliasuk
Wed, 04-16-2014 - 9:50am

Hey Ruby,

Long time no 'see'....

Can I ask, which bands are you talking about, the ones you and your friend are into? Just curious....

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Registered: 01-02-2012
In reply to: rubysat
Tue, 04-15-2014 - 3:27pm
Crossing my fingers for more smiles from him on Thursday, Shy! :-) Good seeing you, Cfk. Nothing is going on for me either, but it is really nice being here again and letting myself rant a bit. ;-) BTW Shy, it worked pressing refresh right away. Got in at once.
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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Mon, 04-14-2014 - 6:44pm
Thanks! I just hope he's as excited to see me Thursday as I'll be to see him. I always get smiles from him (and he doesn't smile much), so I'm trying to stay positive!
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Registered: 05-14-1999
In reply to: shywon
Mon, 04-14-2014 - 2:12pm

I doubt you were as annoying as you thought; just popping on to say good luck!  I have nothing going on in the dating arena (what's new) so I am posting less and less . . . plus, I'm rarely on anyway.  Hope everyone is doing well!

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Sun, 04-13-2014 - 7:53pm
The sign in issue is one that's been asked about many, many times and just gets ignored. I've pretty much given up on them fixing anything. I can be logged in and then suddenly it'll log me out. Hitting refresh sometimes works. I'll keep you updated on the guy. I really hope I didn't annoy him too much last night. I'm always worried about that.
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Registered: 01-02-2012
In reply to: rubysat
Sun, 04-13-2014 - 5:04pm
That is great, Shy! Keep us posted! :-) I hope he contacts you, he sounds like a nice guy. I wish we lived close, I would have joined you on karaoke! :-) I love to sing and do it at home all the time, but I have been in a choir (two different ones) since I was 10 and am not used to hear my own voice really. Have tried karaoke a few times though, but being up there with more people who also sang with me. A wing-woman who is not as shy as me would be good, I really appreciated my friend´s effort last Friday. :-) I am going back there, alone or not. Yesterday I bought a ticket to one of my favourite bands of all times, there is a festival in the backyard of that place. Late June, have no idea if anyone I know will join - and I don´t care! Will enjoy it lots nevertheless. :-) BTW, what is going on with the sign-in? I tried 15 times and it didn´t work. Then I gave up and was on other sites instead, came back and suddenly I was logged in after all? Weird. And rather annoying...
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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Sun, 04-13-2014 - 12:58pm
So I took a huge leap last night (with the help of a couple of drinks) and gave the first guy my number. I was out, and he posted on FB that he was looking for something to do after he was done with work. I sent him a message (private) and told him where I was and told him to text me. He came and hung out for an hour or so, but was really tired. It was the first real conversation we've had. I'm worried I was rambling nonsense for most of it. Alcohol tends to do that to me. I did find out stuff about him that I didn't know. I still can't really read him. He walked me to my car and started to walk away, then came back to give me a hug. Nothing else. I'm going to assume he was being a good guy, because he totally could have tried something and didn't. I texted him when I got home and told him I was really glad he came. I suppose the ball is in his court now. If he is interested, I'm pretty sure he knows I'm open.
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Sun, 04-13-2014 - 10:51am

Somehow I didn't think that a place that does karaoke would attract people who want to fight!  lol  

I went out last night to a bar (kind of a dive, really) that is across the street from the beach to see a band that I really like.  They are well known and I'm surprised there wasn't a bigger crowd.  I went just with one friend.  We saw 2 men there we know.  The first one actually likes another one of our friends--they even went on a date once but she tries to make it clear that she just wants to be friends.  They are very different.  She is a very religious Christian who is looking to get married and wants to find a guy who is also very religious--this guy is definitely not for her, yet he doesn't give up--I don't know if some men just like the challenge of a woman they can't get.  I figure if she told him that she wouldn't have sex unless they were married, he'd go running.  Anyway, he did dance with me and my friend--he knew some other people there and was talking to them most of the time.

The other guy I had recognized from some swing dances but apparently now he is taking lessons at our school.  He was sitting by himself at the bar so both my friend & I asked him to dance (separately).  We thought he might be shy.  When the band took a break, he ended up coming over to talk to us.  He is actually a very nice guy--he's from London, still has the accent, he owns a restaurant.  Unfortunately he's not attractivey.  He has kind of bushy hair and a big beard, but it was nice to talk to him. 

I do agree with you that it's nice to have a wing woman.  The person who has the crush is always too nervous to talk to someone, but if you don't care if the guy likes you, it doesn't matter if you go up and start a conversation first.

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