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| Wed, 03-14-2007 - 10:21pm |
I've been divorced for 2 years, and I just turned 29 on Sunday. I'm feeling that I'm doomed, to be quite honest with you. I have tried damn near every which way to date, and am coming up with duds in every bucket.
I've tried online dating, from match.com, yahoo personals, craigslist, plenty of fish, and myspace. I've tried meeting guys through work, both as co-workers and as customers. I've let every one of my friends know that I am, indeed, available, and wouldn't say no to a fix up (no takers).
I'm not religious, so church is out of the question, and I'm not into any sorts of clubs/sports things at all, so joining one would be for the sole purpose of hooking up, and I don't think that's an honest way to start a relationship. And I despise going to bars, because I really don't want a guy who, well, hangs out in bars.
I live in a large city, so it's not like it was when I lived in my smaller hometown and was in college, and could find no shortage of guys to date.
I just feel like I'm at the end of the dating road. I have no idea where else to look. I'm not looking forward to another single summer.
Any suggestions?

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Eek! Or should I say, Yay! I'm the EXACT same way. I'm very much a homebody, have been single for a while (although there is a story behind that), and am fed up with online dating. I've done it for four years (I'm 27) and more often than not it's just frustrating/anxiety-ridden. I WISH I could meet more girl friends but for some reason that is very difficult, too. It is like most girls online just want to meet men (even off the dating sites) and aren't too interested in platonically bonding with other women. Most of my friends are married and too involved with their husbands, children, etc. to hear me vent about being single :) Recently I had a friend at work who totally ghosted on me when I switched schools (to teach); I was very hurt by that. Anyway. Email me if you want to chat, and if you're near Houston we can share places to AVOID meeting men :) timeofbutterflies@yahoo.com
I can totally understand your frustration. It sounds like you are in the exact same position as me. I am going to be 29 in 4 months, and so far it looks like I'm just going to be another year older and still single.
I actually moved half way across the country in 1999 to be closer to my sisters (Both which have kids). I was only 2 years out of college and wanted to get closer to them in the hopes that I would eventually meet someone here, and have kids, and they could grow up with their cousins, and we could be together for birthdays, holidays, ETC.
To be honest, if I had know I was not going to kind anyone, I would have just stayed where I was. I gave up a good life, as well as all my friends, to move here.
The first year I lived here, I worked at a casino, where thousands of other people work. You would think out of all the people there, SOMEONE would have came along. Nope, just rejection whenever I asked someone out.
I have tried the church singles clubs, and met one girl from match.com, but so far, no luck.
Well, I updated my match.com profile AGAIN today. LIke everyone has said, since I'm a homebody, that's probably the only way I'm ever going to meet someone...but damn! It's getting expensive! I've met two guys that have become great friends of mine after we went out for about a month or so each, but neither were into me "that way", so I guess I've found some good friends out of it at least. But I don't WANT more guy friends!
I just don't want to spend another summer alone, so I guess I'm doomed to either be the Match.com lady or the scary cat lady...
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