is my friend unusual?

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Registered: 08-09-2010
is my friend unusual?
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Thu, 12-27-2012 - 9:19pm

My friend is only attracted to guys who are blondes.   She doesn't like dark haired guys.  I just don't get it.  She's not talking about whether or not she likes preppy guys, guys who ride motorcycles or guys who work on Wall Street - she's talking about looks.  I mean, really?  The color of the guy's hair determines whether or not she thinks he is cute?  Are there any others like her out there? Thanks.

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Thu, 12-27-2012 - 9:48pm

I don't see the harm as it's just a personal preference.  I'm drawn to dark hair, skin and eyes.  I'm open to dating guys that fall more in line with my own aesthetic, and I have, but I definitely have a preference.  Don't  most people?  I don't know, maybe I'm just weird. 

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Fri, 12-28-2012 - 8:37am

I don't think it's that unusual, plus, I think there are many more dark-haired people than other colors, so I guess that works in her favor. 

Personally, I Iike any hair color, but I will say that pale red hair makes my heart melt.  :)

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 12-28-2012 - 11:12am

I've never cared about hair color but I think everyone has things they are attracted to, whether it's hair color, style (some girls will love the rock star look with longer hair, but I hate it), height, weight, etc.  what I think would be sad is if your friend met an otherwise great guy but wouldn't go out with him just cause he didn't have blond hair.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Fri, 12-28-2012 - 3:50pm
I'm going to guess that your friend is very young. She may find her perfectly beautiful blonde man, but chances are if she's focused on looks no one will be good enough. The older you get, the less focused you get on superficial things. That is, if you're really interested in settling down. If your friend just wants to play with men, she probably won't change. If she is young like I suspect, she's probably not all that unusual to be focused on looks.
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Fri, 12-28-2012 - 10:05pm

My friend is 41.  I am 37 and single too.  Until recently, I forgot that she said she likes only blondes.  I am a member of a free dating website so I emailed her a link of this dark haired guy who I thought was cute. She replied back and said he wasn't her type so then I replied and said I forgot she likes only blondes but asked her if she thought he was cute.  She said yes, he's cute but just not her type.  I give up.......  I guess everyone is entitled to his/her opinion

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Registered: 12-03-2006
Sat, 12-29-2012 - 12:55pm

Your friend is 41? Wow!

How about dyed blond? Will she now be attracted? And one day, I when the guy changes his mind, will she lose interest? Or will she change her type now that's she's already in love.

I think your friend has major commitment problem and the narrow 'type' is only a symptom. I think when she finds true love, it won't matter. Not to say one should settle, it's just the type won't matter.

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Registered: 09-30-2012
Tue, 01-01-2013 - 5:20am

no different than women having preference for taller men

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Registered: 12-03-2006
Wed, 01-02-2013 - 12:58am

XVladX,

I think physical preferences are interesting to debate. Now, height is not changeable, whereas hair color is. Height has social implications such as the feel that the man is more masculine when he's taller. Physical attributes can be more general or specific. The more general the attribute is i.e. height, weight, the easier it is to find a partner that fits that attribute. Even things such as race - the obvious thing here is the looks (even when the person was born and raised in this country and fully acculturated) is general enough that people who have preferences for certain races are not generally criticized for being shallow. However, someone who only wants to date people with a button nose, for example, would be considered way to narrow-minded and thus limiting their dating pool. And a nose is much harder to change than hair. Hair color is the ones of the easiest thing to change so to prefer only blondes is very limiting.