My Single Life (Survey)

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My Single Life (Survey)
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Tue, 05-23-2006 - 2:08pm

Edited 5/23/2006 2:14 pm ET by cl214

(Ooops, I thought this survey would allow several selections)




Edited 5/23/2006 2:16 pm ET by cl214

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Tue, 05-23-2006 - 2:11pm
Ok, so I'm bored at work and I like reading about other's feelings and opinions on their single status, so let's all respond and read about everyone else. Ok?
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Tue, 05-23-2006 - 8:14pm

Okay, I was just about to post that I would like to pick about three of those, then after I hit "post" you edited and they were gone!

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Wed, 05-24-2006 - 10:11pm

I think it is so hard the older we get. I have grown in self awareness, opened up spiritually, gained experience (with life and other women), and increased my relationship-communication skills.

I desire the same in my potential life partner. This on top of wanting a physically attractive, slender woman whose personality sparkles along with similar interests.

No wonder it gets harder to find someone who matches.

What do you mean by "quality?"

Mark

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Wed, 05-24-2006 - 10:21pm

I agree with Shy...it sucks a lot, there aren't a lot of quality people out there, and as we get older (although I'm turning 28 next month and a lot of people still claim "oh, but you're SO young!!!" it doesn't feel like I'm young when I've been dating for the past 10 years with little success) and it gets frustrating, trying to continually put yourself out there.

I reached a point where I just threw my hands up and said ENOUGH! If I'm going to meet someone, it's got to be when it's right and it's obviously not the right time right now. I'm not going to force something with someone just to have a relationship, and it's time I started making peace with the fact that I might be single for a while....but I want to be married, I want a family, that's just me.

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Wed, 05-24-2006 - 11:43pm

Quality means a guy who will keep his word, be honest with me, has some ambition, and who just all around treats me right.


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Thu, 05-25-2006 - 12:16am

Hmmmm... seems a simple enough criteria for guys to meet... Do you think that non-quality guys were always around but you are meeting them more? Or that guys get to be non-quality as they age?

Inquirying guy mind wants to know.

Mark

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Thu, 05-25-2006 - 1:51am
Okay. I had to pick just ONE, but I did. I picked "Most of the time, I'd rather be single". The other two I had trouble deciding over were "Dating these days suck, where is my true love?" and "I enjoy being single and don't really want a spouse/SO". I was also drawn to "Finding the one is hit or miss, there aren't enough quality singles out here". If you lived around here, you would understand. I no longer fear being alone like I used to. Instead, I fear the hastles of relationships and the emptiness in dating. Besides, I kind of like being unattainable.
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Thu, 05-25-2006 - 8:42am

"Do you think that non-quality guys were always around but you are meeting them more? Or that guys get to be non-quality as they age?"

Not that you were asking me, but I think I meet too many guys that just don't want relationships, that doesn't mak them non-quality but it doesn't help me at all. They are too consumed with their careers or they just have little desire for romantic companionship. Seriously, I never meet guys that that desire a woman in their life.

I do think more men want these things as they get older but I wonder how ling I can wait and the idea of dating 8-12 years old than me doesn't appeal to me at this time.

(deep sigh)

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Thu, 05-25-2006 - 11:48am

Honestly, finding a man who truly seemed to care was much easier when I was younger.

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Thu, 05-25-2006 - 2:00pm

How much older, is the question? I date guys in their late 40s and early 50s, as a rule...and most of them are not looking for commitment, either. They want the *benefits* of a relationship (such as sex and companionship when *they* want it without regard for what the *other* person wants!), but not the obligations.

So...maybe they change in their 60s??? I don't think so but I could be wrong ;-).

Sheri

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