My sister belongs on Jerry Springer...
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| Thu, 03-15-2007 - 5:56pm |
I just need to vent and blow off some steam before I punch someone.
I have a younger sister. She got married in September of 2004. She immediately starting talking about having a baby, even though her husband said they were not financially ready (they weren't - she had her car repossessed for one thing). So, in August of 2005 she starting having an affair with a co-worker of hers. In May of 2006 she came up pregnant with this guy's kid. In February of 2007 she had this guy's kid. Her husband has no idea.
My sister has never been able to hold down a job for more than eight weeks or so. And now she's a stay-at-home mom. Her husband is working two jobs to support her and the baby.
My sister has now arranged to have the christening or baptism or whatever it is on Easter Sunday. The god parents may not be able to show up because they have plans with THEIR family and my sister made her plans without consulting anyone. So my sister is upset because it's the BABY'S CHRISTENING.
She also called to demand that I show up to the Christening. I said I probably won't be there since I don't see the point of it. She said "well, you're the AUNT!!" I said, "SO WHAT??"
She also mentioned that "she's almost out of the diapers I bought her and the baby now wears size 1 so if you feel like buying some more that's what he's wearing now." If I "feel" like it??
Today she calls me at work to ask me to look up when the birth announcement ran in the newspaper. I said "I don't have time to look. You're at home - you look."
I am going to strangle her. Throttle her. I have had it with her selfishness. And she managed to get someone to marry her. And I can't a man to look twice at me. How's that happen?

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Smile,
Deirdre
The truth is that no one knows that she had this affair except me. (Well and the dozens of bar flies she told but they don't really know her.) This is what AGGRAVATES me so much about her - her absolute and complete lack of any sort of moral behavior at all. She takes no one into consideration except herself. She never has.
My parents paid for her wedding. They drained their IRA for her, and I TOLD THEM not to. We all know how she is. And they did it anyway because I guess they have more faith in her than I do. And I talked endlessly to her before the wedding. I told her to please not do this if there was any doubt at all - please do not bleed mom and dad dry of their money - they are not well-to-do people. But she did it anyway.
Her husband is a nice enough guy but not too bright. So even though they always used birth control and he questioned her about how she was pregnant, she told him the condom must have leaked or something. (She used birth control for her hubby but not her BF.) And he believes her completely - he's a trusting soul.
And this is the first grandchild of the family. So my parents and his parents were thrilled to pieces. Right after the baby was born, I was in the birthing room with the family, and her husband was sitting there with the new baby in his lap. Someone snapped a photo of him and he beamed with pride the only way a new dad can. I almost laughed and cried at the same time.
I am realizing that I hate my sister. I hate what she stands for, I hate that she uses people for her own gain. And I hate that she gets what she wants while others have to work for it.
I would really love to tell her husband and to everyone that "Hey - this isn't who's kid you THINK it is!!" But I can't. I just can't. I don't even know where to begin. I would begin with "I told you so but you didn't listen to me..."
She makes me so mad that I don't even really want to see her face at all anymore. She was supposed to come over tomorrow evening with the baby but I just don't want any part of her right now. I feel bad for the kid - he didn't ask for her as a mom. But I just can't stand to see her face right now.
Edited 3/15/2007 9:13 pm ET by emdeesea
That is really, really awful.
Yep, the BF knows and everyone she works with knows. She's got a huge mouth apparently and she thinks it's funny. She spends a lot of time saying "It's a good thing I was adopted so the baby can look like ANYONE!!"
I know that it's simply a matter of time before everyone finds out (the family and her husband). She doesn't seem to care though. She once told me that if her husband doesn't like it she'll just divorce him and get half.
She's a real piece of work.
I love these women who cheat on their husbands, then go to divorce court and rake them over the coals for every cent they can get, as if the husband has somehow done them wrong.
Wow - your sister-in-law sounds like a real piece of work too. Her and my sister should get together sometime.
What irks me about your brother's case is HOW on EARTH is it that HE has to pay when SHE'S the one who renigged on her vows and they don't even have any children?? How does that work??
I do think that too much of the time the system is skewed to screw the men over and those women like my sister and your sister-in-law (and other women who are of questionable morals) will take advantage of that.
I know that in my sister's case, she'll try the same thing. She had already mentioned to me about how (if/when she divorces her husband) she'll get the house. I told her to not bet on it since she's the one who was unfaithful in the marriage but the truth of the matter is, she probably would because she'd have custody of the child.
Sometimes it makes me want to cry. Here we have women who are honestly trying to do the right thing by people and then we have these shining examples of my sister and your sister-in-law who get what they want by being dishonest and unscrupulous. :(
She got away with it because she went crying to the judge saying how she couldn't find a job, and my brother was the sole breadwinner, and she couldn't support herself.
Geeze. Unbelieveable. That girl has single-handedly ruined your brother's life. That's a shame.
On a slightly different note...
My sister made a comment to me one time last year, right after she found out she was pregnant and her husband was asking her "how did this happen when we use birth control."
He made some joking statement that maybe Teri (my sister) should get a DNA paternity test.
Teri's response (to me) was that "if he for real wants a paternity test I'll divorce him for sure."
I asked "Oh yeah, why's that?"
She said, "Because it means he doesn't trust me!"
I just started laughing at her. She is really something...
How do they do it? Where does this sense of entitlement come from? I just don't know. She wasn't raised this way - we grew up in the same household, and I'd like to think I wouldn't intentionally do something like that to someone. But she is my main source of evidence in the debate between genetics v/s environment.
OMG!!!!
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