My sister belongs on Jerry Springer...

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Registered: 10-14-2003
My sister belongs on Jerry Springer...
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Thu, 03-15-2007 - 5:56pm

I just need to vent and blow off some steam before I punch someone.

I have a younger sister. She got married in September of 2004. She immediately starting talking about having a baby, even though her husband said they were not financially ready (they weren't - she had her car repossessed for one thing). So, in August of 2005 she starting having an affair with a co-worker of hers. In May of 2006 she came up pregnant with this guy's kid. In February of 2007 she had this guy's kid. Her husband has no idea.

My sister has never been able to hold down a job for more than eight weeks or so. And now she's a stay-at-home mom. Her husband is working two jobs to support her and the baby.

My sister has now arranged to have the christening or baptism or whatever it is on Easter Sunday. The god parents may not be able to show up because they have plans with THEIR family and my sister made her plans without consulting anyone. So my sister is upset because it's the BABY'S CHRISTENING.

She also called to demand that I show up to the Christening. I said I probably won't be there since I don't see the point of it. She said "well, you're the AUNT!!" I said, "SO WHAT??"

She also mentioned that "she's almost out of the diapers I bought her and the baby now wears size 1 so if you feel like buying some more that's what he's wearing now." If I "feel" like it??

Today she calls me at work to ask me to look up when the birth announcement ran in the newspaper. I said "I don't have time to look. You're at home - you look."

I am going to strangle her. Throttle her. I have had it with her selfishness. And she managed to get someone to marry her. And I can't a man to look twice at me. How's that happen?

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 3:18pm
This would infuriate me too. Yikes! I hope her husband finds out that it's not his baby. I just don't understand how people can lie like that and get away with it and also be waited on hand and foot.
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Registered: 08-16-2005
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 4:57pm

She won't just get the house though, she'd have to be able to afford the house. And if she can't afford the house, she'd have to buy him out of his share of it that's usually how it works. Alot of the time the courts will allow the woman to stay in the house until the child is of age at which time she'd have to sell the house and give him his share or buy him out.

However I think it's unfair for him not to know about the child because usually if his name is on the birth certificate he might have to pay child support even if it's not his child even if they do divorce, the sooner he knows it's not his child the sooner it is he can make an informed decision to either stay and raise the child as his own or get away from your loser of a sister. I think it's awful that he's in the dark even if he's a dumb person I think it's awful this is being kept from him.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 5:35pm

>I think it's awful that he's in the dark even if he's a dumb person I think it's awful this is being kept from him.<

That's the ethical dilema because my sister has recently said she wants this marriage to work (probably because she realizes what a screw-up she is). Do I want to take responsibility for busting up a marriage or do I keep my mouth shut and let it happen on it's own (and THEN pass the guy an anonymous note to get a paternity test done)?

I am of the school that you just let it happen on it's own. I don't want any hate coming my way. My life sucks bad enough without having someone threatening me or slashing my tires.

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Registered: 02-09-2007
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 9:21pm

>That's the ethical dilema because my sister has recently said she wants this marriage to work (probably because she realizes what a screw-up she is). Do I want to take responsibility for busting up a marriage or do I keep my mouth shut and let it happen on it's own (and THEN pass the guy an anonymous note to get a paternity test done)?

I am of the school that you just let it happen on it's own. I don't want any hate coming my way. My life sucks bad enough without having someone threatening me or slashing my tires.<

You could always pass an anonymous note NOW... "Diapers contain DNA. You might want to get your kid's checked."

Sent through the mail, no return address, then no one is the wiser, and the ball is in his court.

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