My weekend in Bizzaro-Boyland

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My weekend in Bizzaro-Boyland
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Mon, 06-18-2007 - 2:53pm

I had a very interesting week in an alternate universe that I will call Bizzaro-Boyland.

It started on Thrusday I went out on what was beknownst to me, a blind date. I say this because I am not dating right now, I just ended an engagement and am really not interested in dating at all. But I just moved to a new city and a former co-worker hooked me up with her nephew so I would know some people in the area. He called me and we went out. He referred to never being out on a blind date and asked if I had ever been on one. I said "no" and thought "and I'm still not". But that is neither here nor there. He was talking about how his roommate was supposed to take a girl out that night as well and he said the roommate talks about this girl all the time, a little too much acutally. He said that the roommate didn't want the girl to get the wrong impresssion. I think he doesn't want the girl to think the guy wants a relationship and all but the blind date goes on to say "he doesn't want to be just friends". Hmm, ok well yes occasionally some guys I guess like girls and want the whole 9 yards with them. Not yet quite in Bizzaro Boyland but coming to the enterance.

On Saturday I go to my apartment buildings pool. I was the only person there for about an hour.
Two guys come to the pool after that. The one was extremely good looking the other was probably very goodlooking to some girls. He was the meathead muscle guy who's T-shirt, if he were wearing one, would have been 2 sizes too small. I would have guessed he would have been very impressed with himself in a conversation.
I was overhearing their conversation and was shocked by what I overheard:
Meathead: I don't why but he just won't buy her a ring yet.
Hotguy: They've been together a while.
Meathead: Yeah
Hotguy: Well you know once he goes there is going be a domino effect there are going to about 8 of them that go
Meathead: I remember when we sophomores and we were in class the one day and he said to me 'I hope I meet the love of my life this year'.
Hotguy:
Meathead: I hope it happens to me
Hotguy: Me too.

Now let me clairify that these two were in no way sarcastic or poking fun or sounding like their friend is entering into a ball and chain scenario. I was texting my friend that I was overhearing the funniest conversation, I've never heard guys talk like this! I figured they were an anomaly.
Enter 3 more guys all of the hot. They were not associated with the first 2.

Dark hair boy: Alicia came back to my room last night. NOTHING happened. (his tone was serious, not disappointed. More convincing.
Other two boys:
Dark hair boy: I didn't know she was seeing that Kevin. If I knew that I wouldn't have let her stay.
Shaved head boy: I think I knew that. I would have said something.
Then they went on and on about Alicia and Sarah and Katie. Not about sports or drinking or anything. and the conversation was never locker room talk. Always just telling a story. No one was busting anyone. Nothing. Weird

2 more guys come not as good looking they were friends with the first two.
The one says: Now I have to expose my fat
The other: Oh your not that bad. After the week you had its understandable all you've been eating was pizza and stromboli. You've been stressed out.
The one to the Hotguy: Yeah what about you. You look anorexic, eat something
Hotguy: I do eat. I just think eatings a waste of time. I'd rather be doing other things. I try to eat healthy all week and then on weekends I'm just whatever.

Where was I? What happend to guys who were committmentphobic and didn't want kids. Now they are all about marriage and family and all with one girl. And more and more girls are about not getting married don't know if they want kids and think that guys who want only them are smoothering them. Its weird this post-Sex and the City world.

Just a fun little story for everyone. When I was telling my friends they were like "what is wrong with them? We don't even talk like that and we're girls.

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Mon, 06-18-2007 - 4:11pm
Hehe, that's cute. :) Just shows you not EVERY guy is the same.
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Mon, 06-18-2007 - 5:15pm

I actually really needed to hear a story like that.

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Tue, 06-19-2007 - 11:55am
Wow - that definitely goes against the stereotypes, doesn't it? Nice to be a fly on the wall, so to speak. :)


Edited 6/19/2007 1:02 pm ET by tallgirlcolo

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Tue, 06-19-2007 - 12:38pm

OP,
**Just a fun little story for everyone. When I was telling my friends they were like "what is wrong with them? We don't even talk like that and we're girls.**

Do I detect the slights hint of "turn off"? (-:

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Tue, 06-19-2007 - 1:04pm

>>Do I detect the slights hint of "turn off"? (-:<<

I think it's refreshing to hear that some guys talk like this. I would have had to be there, but I don't think it's a turn off.

I think it might answer Shy's question from last week (was it Shy?) about whether or not men think about the person they're dating or interested in as much as women do. Apparently, some men do.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Tue, 06-19-2007 - 1:28pm

Picture a bunch of Marines sitting in the desert talking about what they want when they get home . . .trust me . . .this is not an uncommon conversation. (-: Just amazes me how surprised woman are when they hear it.

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Tue, 06-19-2007 - 1:28pm

Yep, it was my question, and that story was exactly what I was hoping to hear from someone.

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Tue, 06-19-2007 - 1:29pm

Umm...wouldn't they be talking about sex?

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Tue, 06-19-2007 - 1:39pm
Exactly my point, you don't get it. lol Think deeper. You have nothing, are a little worried about "getting" home . . .things you took for granted before are starting to be seen with some clarity, value added if you will . . . among close friends, and the decent "side of the crowd" . . .family, love, friends, a hot shower .. . lol . . all these things are what you start to think and talk about. In general, not a common conversation in a bar. . . .I would guess the group she overheard were all pretty good friends.
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Tue, 06-19-2007 - 1:46pm

I want to offer a little food for thought. The universal thought among all of you is "men" need to do the approaching. Well, what kind of man gets the most "action"? The "hunter" right? So who is doing the majority of the approaching? And what kind of men are you meeting? Simple math really. Simple odds. The "snap shot" of the general population of men is a little skewed by the very rules you play by. In sales, some of us endure canvassing, but hunters live for it and are relentless, they never are off the hunt. (-: Just a thought.

Now, that being said . . .do I offer an answer . . if I knew that I would write a book and retire a very rich man. lol

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