MySpace is the DEVIL!!!

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Registered: 07-07-2007
MySpace is the DEVIL!!!
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Sat, 07-07-2007 - 2:28pm
Ugh...My boyfriend of 3 years and I broke up about a year ago. (I'm 28, for reference, if it makes any difference) Things were getting pretty bad in the end, and he ended up going on a couple of dates with a girl while we were still technically together...overlapping our relationship. Anyway, his MySpace has allowed me to discover that he has since started a serious relationship with this girl, and they are like TOTALLY into each other. HER MySpace is like...basically a copycat of his. All interests, movies, shows, sayings...they are like twins and it makes me want to VOMIT! Its like she has no mind of her own. They have gone on about 4 vacations together in the course of a year, all exact places that he and I have vacationed to...its sick! Ugh...I just find it so bizarre how he could go from one very serious relationship into the next...with no break in between. I honestly don't feel I could ever do that. It really makes me feel worthless, like I meant nothing to him. Did I mean nothing to him? He basically took no time to "get over me" and started up fresh with someone else. Not fair!!! MySpace is NOT helping...I seriously need to stop checking out his page...although I have noticed he has been looking at mine (I have an IP tracker)...hmmmm.
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 07-07-2007 - 2:43pm

Okay, first let me address your question. I am sure that you meant something to him. You guys were together for three years, that's a significant amount of time. As for the new relationship. Have you ever had a girlfriend who was a serial dater? She just could not stand to be alone? I think that there are guys out there who are the same way. I think it's far more common for men to jump right back into a relationship than women. Sure there are some women who will do so, but I think the percentage of men who do it is probably higher. Just my experience.

How do these IP trackers work? I signed up for one, but it would only give the IP addresses, no ID's, and would only do that if the person looking at my page was a member of the same site as myself. How do you know who's IP address is who's? I eventually cancelled my membership. However, I always wonder who uses these trackers. To me, it kind of ruins all the fun. I'm not a stalker, but I am nosey ; )

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Registered: 07-07-2007
Sat, 07-07-2007 - 2:52pm

Well first I track the IP address. My advantage is I knew his IP address already. Also, you can take the IP to this site www.ip-adress.com (yes, spelled wrong) which is a highly accurate tracker, and will give you the town/city the address is coming from (which also helps me, because he is the only one I know in his town)...not TERRIBLY easy to use or accurate, but if you have the right info, it can work.

And you are right, it does take all the fun out of it. I became less nosey after I found out about this tracker... no fun.

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Registered: 08-16-2005
Sat, 07-07-2007 - 6:00pm

Okay just to play devils advocate maybe it's not that she doesn't have a mind of her own, maybe they just are that much alike.

I have a male friend that I used to be involved with we literally liked all the same things, movies, comedians, music etc. If we had myspace it would probably be identical.

I'm sorry you are hurting but try not going to his page or hers it's only further hurting you.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 07-24-2007
Tue, 07-24-2007 - 3:13am
I totally agree that myspace is the devil! It is also a double-edged sword; you hate looking at it because you see things that make you feel bad, but at the same time you don't know how to quit it! I also have the privelage of watching my ex bf on myspace AND facebook together with his new gf. I get to see all the pictures and sappy love notes she posts to him. Remember that no one is truly honest on myspace. They are not about to post picture or messages of the true state of their relationship such as "Here are pics of our last huge argument, etc." Myspace is very superficial in that people make themselves and their relationships appear so much more happy and lovey-dovey than they probably are in reality. I also believe that if your ex and his new gf were soooo perfect for each other and truly in love, why do they have to proclaim it on the internet literally for the whole world to see? It's a show!
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Registered: 12-24-2006
Thu, 07-26-2007 - 7:50pm

I USED to be included in MySpace. Until I started noticing that someone was pretending to be me or something and posting these perverse Bulletin Board Posts, under my account on MySpace..

You realize anyone can put up anything online these days?! I used to have a web site, back in high-school years, that was at AsianAvenue.com that me and most of my "asian/filipina" friendS have and I had made four pages; one of my own, mine/an ex-X, and fixed two of close friends' sites. I would often violate the trust territory and read my (at THAT time in history) ex's e-mails/ e-pagers on the server of AA and was amazed at the time he had talking to OTHER females (and I even found out about him and his exes, whatever) and it really is messed Up. I think the point in a relationship when you start getting past jealousy and become somewhat concern about trust, is the time where you should re-consider even being with that person. Without trust, a relationship just won't withstand...

So, concerning your MySpace dilemma, I would just say move on and find someone else who won't commit emotional affairs (online, and possibly offline). You can never trust the internet these days anyways. So, YEAH-- I KNOW what your complaints are. Stay safe!

--eReader_K

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