Need Advice

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Need Advice
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Tue, 01-10-2012 - 11:53am

I’ve been dating this guy for the past few months... Great guy! The best guy that I have ever dated actually. Treats me wonderful and spoils me rotten. We both went away for the holidays last month and have not seen each other in a month. He always kept in touch via text every so often to see how I was doing. He texted me on Christmas and was the 1st one to text me on New Years. During his trip, he always mentioned how much he missed me and that he couldn’t wait to see me. He asked if he could take me out on a date when

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Registered: 09-21-2011
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 1:47pm

I would be disappointed too. How far away apart do yall live? I am inclined towards giving him one more chance to come and see you, and if he comes up with another excuse, then write him off. If he doesn;t have a job and couldn't make it last night because of an interview, I would not hold that against him.

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 1:53pm

He lives about 50 mins away. I'm pretty sure at this point he knows that I am upset because I have not text him back yet. I will give him one more chance but what can I say to him that let's him know that this is his last chance without coming off as being too nasty?

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Registered: 09-21-2011
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 2:00pm

50 minutes is not bad at all. Why tell him its his last chance? I would keep that to myself. You don;t want him to come just because its an ultimatum, he needs to come because he wants to see you. And if he blows it off again, then its not that important to him.

Just my opinion :)

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 2:03pm

I understand! I was thinking of saying " ok, so i'll be expecting to see you tonight then!" Is that ok?

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 3:09pm

There could be many reasons for his ghosting.

dragowoman

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 3:20pm

Haha... I you always have the greatest advice xxxs. You're the best! Well I decided to give him one more shot since i really do feel that he likes me and that I may be over emotional right now since i am pms-ing. So I decided to text him about an hr ago saying "Yes... tonight i'm free so i'll see you then" and he replied a 1/2 second later. At that point i let him know that I am available at 8:30 and that's all so he said "ok see you then". So i guess that solves that. He knows he's in the dog house so he better show up or else.

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Registered: 09-21-2011
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 4:22pm

Perfect!

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Registered: 09-21-2011
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 4:25pm

Perfect - I'll be thinking about you tinght,keep us posted

I think xxxs makes an excellent point about money/gas issues, but then he needs to tell you that's why he can't make it

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Wed, 01-11-2012 - 2:01am

So did he show up?

I have a wacky suggestion.

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Wed, 01-11-2012 - 9:09am

Hey everyone! Well yes, he did show up Marina and we had a GREAT night! It was worth giving him once last shot for sure. We ended the night with a *ahem*... bang lol. It was wonderful because we hadn't seen each other in so long with the holiday travels and what not but i am so glad that he's back. After talking to him, we spoke briefly about what happened because he brought it up. He said that he thought I was done with him because I didn't reply for quite a while and i let him know that I was actually giving him once last shot and had he not showed up i would have written him off. He said that he sensed that and that's why he didn't want to mess around and screw up again. It's funny how people can read each other even at a distance. He took me to dinner (at which i picked the restaurant) and he even gave me $ for the babysitter to watch my son for me while we went out. Marina... it's funny that you mentioned asking him out. I have done that before he loved the idea.

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