Need advice for getting over someone

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Need advice for getting over someone
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Tue, 11-01-2005 - 10:04am

I dated someone earlier this year for almost four months. I completely fell for him and, when it ended, I cried for a month. Pathetic.

It has been four months now since we broke up. I thought I was over him, and then he e-mailed me last week. All those feelings came back to the surface, and I find myself thinking about him all the time and wishing we could get back together. (This was not my longest relationship by a long shot, but somehow I am having more trouble getting over this guy than anyone else from my past).

Ladies, please help me do the right thing and get over this man! What do you do to let go and move on? I really need some solid advice!

Thanks.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Fri, 11-04-2005 - 12:22pm
I loved this thread because it reiterates that, regardless of how successful, beautiful and smart, we all go through the same things..... In my opinion and experience, it depends on the person, how long it takes to get over somebody. I had one guy who threw me off balance more then any guy ever had...... In the end for the first time, I questioned my intelligence, my attractiveness, and everything in between. We were friends and talked all the time. One day, I came out and said something to him about how I felt and he basically said, "no thanks". I don't really know why it took me so long to get over him, 1 1/2 years... I think it was because I didn't have the chance to see if it would work as more than just a friend and the fact that he kept wanting to talk to me. There was something there, I know there was, but for whatever reason, he did not want to go that route. My point is, there will be someboy, some boy, that will rock your foundation to its very core. For me, it was time that helped and no contact, which is hard. Sometimes, it feels nice to talk and catch up, but it does more damage in the long end. Why do guys who break up with you or just want to be friends always contact you??? Every guy I have dated have always come back later on. I don't really get it.

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