Need Advice....ASAP

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-14-2006
Need Advice....ASAP
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Thu, 09-14-2006 - 12:32pm

Hello All,

I am new to the message board. I know I may sound childish, but I really need some good advice. Here's my situation. I have been single for about 2 years and I never thought I would fall for another guy EVER. Finally, I'm having a "Girls Night Out" and I meet this guy. He walked up with a corney line, but he was really cute and the conversation wasn't that bad. After a short while of us talking, his friend walked in. His friend is better looking so I just started to talk to both of them. At the end of the night, the first guy proceeds to give my female friend his number and I was left with nothing. On our ride home, my female friend ask me to call him from my phone (because she has a boyfriend)and I save his number. The next weekend, I called him to see what he and his friend was doing that night. He really surprised me when he showed up at the bar again. This was like the begin all over again! We continued to talk after that night and have become friends. I really like him, but he rarely calls me (more txt than anything)and we see each other like every Saturday. I've lied to my female friend because I don't want her to be upset with the whole situation. I sent him a txt message yesterday to find if he's really interested...but his reply leaves me with questions. What's a sure shot way to find out if he's really "feeling this"? Or could it be he just wants us to have sex?? PLEASE HELP. I need to know if I should leave him alone :(

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2005
Thu, 09-14-2006 - 12:39pm
Leave him alone.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2005
Thu, 09-14-2006 - 1:15pm

>What's a sure shot way to find out
>if he's really "feeling this"?

I think this question was answered in your own post when you wrote, "the first guy proceeds to give my female friend his number and I was left with nothing". You called him the first time, he rarely calls you, I think that YOU are chasing him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2006
Thu, 09-14-2006 - 1:30pm


Hey Hal,

Unless guy number one went over to the OP's girfriend because the OP started chatting up the better looking guy and that annoyed guy one . . .

to the OP

there is no sure way, you have to spend time with people and then make an educated guess about their motives . . . and then you can still be wrong. not being cyncial, just realistic . . .

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2005
Thu, 09-14-2006 - 2:15pm

What was his reply to the text message?


There really is no "surefire" way to know if he is "feeling it" or not unless he starts showing you that he is (i.e., calls you, makes plans with you, kisses you, etc).