Need advice....PLEASE!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-20-2005
Need advice....PLEASE!!!
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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 10:36am
O.k....I'm going to make this as short as possible. I met this guy at the gym. He's a trainer. We started talking about two months ago. He asked me out soon after we met. He wanted to go out right then & there. I turned him down because I didn't know him. He gave me his phone number a few days later & asked me to call him so I did. He insisted that I call him...he didn't want my number. Anyway...we started talking almost every night for a few hours each night. I told him some personal things that I don't really ever share with anyone. He hasn't told me much about himself. He calls me less now. We talk on the phone a couple times a week. We don't talk at the gym anymore because he got in trouble for talking to me so much. So, when I see him at the gym, we just smile at each other. It's kinda weird. Anyway...when we talk now sometimes he gets kinda weird. Like the other night...he started asking me about sex. He knows I'm a virgin. He asked me if I had "urges" and if I'm "curious about it." I basically didn't answer him. I think it sort of makes him mad that I don't want to talk about it. I told him that I shouldn't have told him all that personal stuff about myself. He said that it doesn't bother him and that "you know I like you." I asked him if I pissed him off and he told me that I was "giving him a headache." We've been talking for 2 months. We haven't been on a date. He hasn't even asked me out again! What should I do?? Any advice??

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2005
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 6:31pm
I have some advice for you. Basically, you told this guy too much too fast. He was curious about you, enough to call, and be interested in dating. And then you confided way too much too quickly. In a relationship, guys like a little mystery. The whole fun of dating, is that you slowly get to know someone. You should not have brought up the "virgin" issue until you were either dating or you thought there was a possibility you may sleep together. As for his inappropriate remarks about your virginity, I would just ignore them. The unfortunate part of giving too much info too fast, is sometimes you confide in the wrong person. I would walk away from this guy, he is not worth the trouble. The next time you like a guy, don't bare you soul so easily, make him take the time to get know you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2005
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 9:42pm

Why don't you ask him out? If he doesnt want to date then I would end the phone sessions. Sounds like maybe he wants to have phone sex or something.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2005
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 9:48pm
Why did you turn him down twice but you keep talking to him? He is probably confused. Ask him out, but quit the phone chatting.

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