need help on cyberflirting

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Registered: 03-28-2003
need help on cyberflirting
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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 12:23pm
Guys, i really need your advice. I've had a crush on a coworker for a couple of years...i'm in the Mexico office and he's US based, so everything (work and innocent flirting) was done online or over the phone. Yesterday he announced it was his last day at the company and i wrote him a farewell message. In the very last line, i confessed my crush!

well, he answered! he said that even though he was not in the company anymore, i could keep the crush and that he had one on me too. Man! It really made my day :) I want to email him and see what happens. But he's 1900 miles away :'(

how do you build a long distance virtual relationship??

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-20-2003 - 12:56pm
How well can you possibly know this guy if you work so far apart and your only contact has been e-mail? I wouldn't think it would be worth the effort to try to continue cyberflirting with him. You can't really know someone just through e-mail and the longer it continues the more attached you'll become without really knowing the guy. You'll come to look forward to his e-mail and may start to view it as a relationship, when you really don't have one. Find someone closer to where you live and skip the cyberflirting.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-20-2003 - 4:06pm
I think you have to realize that it is not a relationship nor is he interested in one. He is interested in cyberflirting - an email penpal - and that's it. Sounds like a waste of time to me.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 05-20-2003 - 7:08pm
I think it's fine to keep emailing, as long as you don't develop plans for future children, marriage, or even a true relationship. I actually have a couple of guys that I know strictly online, and occasionally, I'll admit to a little flirting, but that's it. I do it for fun, not to get anything back from it. Just be realistic, and I think it's okay.

As for help, I'm not sure I can do that! I'll admit, I can flirt with the best of them in person, but I'm not so good with the written form!