need help fast!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
need help fast!
Wed, 09-03-2003 - 11:03pm
Hi everyone

It has been awhile since i posted here. But heres the scoop : I have been dating someone exclusively for about 2 months. I really like him but just coming out of a divorce I am wondering if i should be so serious so soon. Anyway the big question is I was asked out by a really nice guy and I don't know what to do. I don't want to tell b/f because I'm sure he would freak. What I want to do is go out with the new guy and see if there is any chemistry there and if not no harm done and my relationship is safe. If there is something there than I have alot of thinking to do. I have never cheated on a relationship before but I don't want to hurt anyone I just want to do what will be best for me.

AM I a dirtbag for wanting to do this? Should I tell b/f and risk losing him? Please help soon time is ticking for the date if I go thru with it.

Thanks so much and be honest.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 09-03-2003 - 11:11pm
If you go out with this guy, you WILL be cheating. Can you live with that? Will you respect yourself afterwards? If things don't work out, will you feel guilty? If things do, can the new guy trust you? Bottom line: Yes, going out with this guy will make you "a dirtbag."

HOWEVER, the fact that you want to go out with him should tell you that something is wrong with your current relationship. Boyfriends aren't like houses: you don't have to have one. If you are still looking around and considering dates from another guy, wondering what could be, you need to break up with your boyfriend. He deserves to be with someone who wants to only be with him.