Need some advise

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Need some advise
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:27am
Ok, I'm going to try to keep this one short... I seem to have gotten myself into a possibly sticky situation. So there's this guy I have been sort of FWB with for the last two years, but really on and off, only see eachother every few months, etc. He is the first and only guy I've ever had sex with. The last time I even saw him was over a month ago. The topic of us dating was brought up several times and he turned out to be a bit of a jerk about it. Started by just saying that he wasn't ready for a relationship, then when it came down to it I was told that while I'm a great girl, and cute, I'm just not "supermodel cute". After hearing that lame superficial remark, I'm pretty much over all of it. But we are still on good terms as far as he knows. I saw no point in making things awkward because we have many of the same friends and see eachother form time to time.
So this is where it gets a little confusing. So last week that guy's brother moved into my best friend's house and I met him for the first time. We've hit it off really well so far. I seem to really get along with him, and last night we ended up making out. So my question is, is this a horrible idea all together to even think of starting up something with the "new" brother, or does it not really matter because I never officially dated the other brother. That "relationship" was never anything but physical. My other question, which I think I already know the answer to, bu will ask anyways. If I do decide to allow anything further to happend iwht the "new" brother, do I just outright tell him that the one guy I've slept with(He knows there's only been one) happens to be his brother?
I'm so confused. On one hand I know it'd be easier and maybe better to just ignore what happened last night and make sure it doesn't happen again. On the other, I really enjoy just being around this guy and don't wanna miss out on somethign possibly good just because of a non important past I have with his brother.
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 9:10am

First, I wouldn't be surprised if the brother isn't just as superficial.

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 7:58pm
Thanks for your input! Yeah, I know that the other one gets that attitude somewhere. I know the third brother and he's like that too. But this one seems different. I think I'm definitely gonna tell him if I decide to do anything with him again. If I don't it'd definitely seem weird...
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 11:24pm

I heard a saying...don't fish in the same waterhole. Listen, guys talk too & maybe his brother already said something like the CL said. He may think he can get some now & do you really want to jusxt be passed around like a can of beer in a bag? Guys are shallow. If a guy truley cares for you...try holding out for 1-2 months...no sex. If he hangs in there, then I believe there's a chance.

I would take a break from all this nonsense. Also figure out what you really want. take it from me, there is nothing wrong with FWB, as long as you know that it won't evolve into a relationship. You know the other saying...why but the milk if you get the cow for free.

I just would take a break from all this drama. You don't always need to be friends with someone after it ends either. Being civii is good.

Good luck. Again just my 2 cents.