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|Fri, 07-25-2014 - 6:21pm|
I know I haven't posted in a while, but I need some advice so hoping you can help! I'll try to keep this as short as possible.
Aiden and I have known each other for close to 10 years, by having common friends. We didn't see each other that often though, just once in a while at the same party. (He was married for part of that time, now divorced for 4 yrs.) We reconnected at a party in April, and were doing a little flirting. At the time, we were living an hour apart, but I was unemployed and actively seeking positions all over the Northeast. In May, he was traveling a lot for work so we were emailing, and I got a job offer in a place that makes us 4 hours apart. I took the job, and moved in early June. Around that time, we started talking on the phone, and it was clearer there was romantic interest.
We finally met up for the weekend 2 weeks ago. I traveled to him, mostly because the logistics were simpler. We had quite a 30 hour date, which was a lot of fun. We didn't have any serious conversation though about what dating looks like from over 200 miles away. He did say that he doesn't want to rush the dating phase, and jump right into relationship phase. Right after our weekend together, he left on a 10 day business trip overseas, and we had agreed to just use email during that time. He got back this week, and I just can't tell where we are.......we had a nice hour long phone conversation, but it wasn't very flirty. And he didn't mention getting together again.
I really like him, and want to make plans to see each other again, but don't want to seem pushy. And then there's the obvious question of what the heck are we doing starting a long distance relationship!? In my head, I plan to move back to the general area where he lives eventually, and would consider that within 12-18 months. But we haven't talked about that or anything.
Thoughts? I think I want some reassurance that he still "likes" me, even if we aren't exclusive. I don't regret visiting him or anything, but it has turned me into a crazy obsessed woman, and I don't want to scare him off.