need some help
Find a Conversation
need some help
| Sun, 02-11-2007 - 4:05pm |
ok so i need some advice.. Do you think it is really wrong of me to contact and maybe meet up with a man who has big history with one of my best friends? she is with someone else and says shes not interesed but what if i dont tell her i am either and she really wouldnt like it if i was? they met at college but have not been together since he moved to another State. just been a sort of history and strong feelings- seeing each other occasionally 3/4 times a year. please comment... (note: i did not initiate the contacting, he did.)
Thank you, LATAIAXXXXXXXXXXXXxxxxXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
Thank you, LATAIAXXXXXXXXXXXXxxxxXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

In most situations, with most women: Yes.
Hey, Lataia.
I don't think there is any problem in you going after the guy. Your friend is not with him, and last time I checked - nobody owns anybody in our day and age. Unless she still really cares about him, which she apparently doesn't, he is free to see who he wants and so are you. Even if she gets mad at it, I don't see how you can feel guilty about it.
To show extra courtesy and consideration however, you might want to simply inform your girlfriend of your intentions to make a move.
Thanks.
Arkady Itkin
www.PracticalHappiness.com
thanks again,
Layxxxxxx
Good deal, Lay. You put it well. Sometimes thinking and analyzing too much is an obstacle to what we want and should have. Focus on enjoying the process and don't worry about the ego thing. Regardless of the outcome of your actions, it will be an interesting experience.
Thanks,
Arkady Itkin
Unique, practical, proven to be effective dating and relationships advice at
www.PracticalHappiness.com