Need some input

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Registered: 09-19-2004
Need some input
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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 3:33pm
I'm supposed to be meeting a guy my friend has been wanting to set me up with. I've told her many times I just want to meet and hang out in a group without expectations of a date. Unfortunately it looks like it will be only us meeting, as my friend bailed. I don't feel like I can cancel on this guy, as we have tried a few times to hang out since we've been chatting since Oct-Nov (but it never seemed to happen). I feel a bit annoyed that my friend would do this after she was the one who kept insisting we meet. This isn't considered a date, but it feels so weird to just hang out with a guy I've never met before... I'm a bit nervous and worried, anyone ever been in this position before? Any words of advice are welcomed!
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Registered: 01-27-2006
Thu, 02-02-2006 - 3:40pm
From the looks of your post it seems to me like your friend bailed on purpose to leave you two alone. Very uncomfortable if I was in that position, but I wouldn't cancel on him. You can use the "bailing" as a conversation starter letting him know you are a bit nervous because it's just the two of you. Just be yourself, I'm sure you'll know from the get go whether he's something you'll be interested in, and if not, enjoy the night anyway. No harm done in trying or having a good time with what may become a relationship or even just a good friend. You can never have too many friends, as long as it's a friend on YOUR terms and not his. I know all about guys that just want to be "friends" LOL
Have fun!!
Jodie
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Thu, 02-02-2006 - 6:22pm
Of course you should enjoy your time with him. If you can, maybe you can do some sort of activity where there are a lot of people around. Make it a group activity with a bunch of strangers. Maybe roller or ice skating? Sporting event? One of those arcades for grown-ups? Throw a party for all your iVillage friends? Good luck!!!