Nervousness Means No Way!!

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Nervousness Means No Way!!
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Thu, 05-18-2006 - 1:53pm
I have read some responses to the "Body Language" post and am puzzled by some of them. A lot of the repsonses say that a nervous guy means he is not that into you. Is the correct, because I always thought a nervous guy meant he did care, but was unsure how to move forward. For those who feel a nervous guy means, no way is he into you, I would like them to explain why this is and what they have found to be true. I am not saying this is wrong or right, just curious..... Thanks!!
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Registered: 12-20-2005
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 3:26pm
No, being nervous doesn't mean you're not interested! It's just not AS attractive as someone who is confident, that's all. But even really confident people get nervous at times, so you can't really judge it all that much. Sometimes it's nice to be a little nervous though, it helps you stay grounded and not lose yourself and become too open. Being nervous does show you care in a way, because it shows you don't want to do the wrong thing, and there is nothing wrong with that.
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 4:42am
I am more confident/comfortable around women when I feel no sexual attraction toward them.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 7:46am

I tend to be the same way with men. (Unless he's creepy. Creepy always makes me uncomfortable)


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Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 7:59am
Yeah.
If I am not sexually attracted to a guy or attracted to him atleast, I am the most confident. If I am extremely attracted to him, I try to fake it but sooner or later, my nervousness starts like I feel a lump in my throat and can no longer talk or sometimes if I see the guy, I'll immediately look the other way or try to avoid him some how.
I've seen guys do this to me sometimes. I usually take their reaction as not interested, though. LOL.
But I've also had guys that were very confident, atleast it seemed to me and they come right up and strike up a conversation with me and they don't seem nervous in the least. Usually what gives it away for me is how they look at me or they linger in the conversation when I'm ready to end it, they still try to keep me engaged in the conversation.
Hmmm... It's very hard to say as everyone is different.
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Registered: 09-19-2005
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 12:26pm
Oh so true! Sometimes people wonder if I'm nervous, but really I'm nervous because I don't want them making the moves! This happens when I think I should like him, but he's creepy for some reason or another. Then I act overly falsely happy and open minded while keeping my distance. With a guy I like if I think he likes me then I am pretty confident. If I don't think he likes me then ... well it depends on the situation. Most men who like me are not nervous, it seems. The ones who don't, don't get close enough to get nervous. Just oblivious.