New Guy Friend

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New Guy Friend
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Sat, 07-13-2013 - 4:41pm

well I might have met another guy friend like my friend who passed away back in March.. I went to a meet up group last week for hiking in the park and there was a guy there who was 57 and he was really nice and we were talking and hanging out.. We exchanged phone numbers and we have spoken on phone twice since last week..It seems we are both on the same page and def. not going to be romantic but it appears for now that we can be friends.. He lives an hour away but next week there is a big music festival near where he lives and so I can meet him there. He said he would love to meet there... Its a kind of place you want to guy with a guy and not the girls LOL..

The weird thing is that I called him first to just talk and it just seems its so much easier to be friends with a guy than get into the romantic thing and not that I dont want that but I am happy that he was easy to talk to and didnt diss me or anything..

So I am going to continue to practice the laws of attraction even though there are days its pretty challenging..

Oh; I also might have found an apartment in a complex where I want to live in a great area and finally someone called me back and says there is a vacancy..The place is nice and big and right near the highway and stores and there is even a bus route just in case I need that.. It is also in the middle of things so I can drive North or South and in a matter of minutes.. Its not inexpensive but most places on Long Island arent.. So I have to weigh it all out..and hoping I wont chicken out of it. The good part is that I have until Aug. to decide on this place or another one I find that I like also... Problem is my credit but will also leave that up to the Universe and hope for the best..

 

 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 07-13-2013 - 4:48pm

Good luck with the apt. & with the guy.  Yes sometimes it's a lot easier just to be friends and it's good to have someone to do things with.  

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 07-13-2013 - 7:15pm

I love my girls but there is something to be said about male friends.  I don't know, they're just . . . different and in a good way.  That's awesome Free and it sounds like you already have some commonalities ;)

Good luck with the appartment.  I have co-habitated with siblings as an adult so know firsthand, it's not always a walk in the park.  I hope this works out for you :)

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 07-13-2013 - 9:09pm

Good finding friends is so important!! 

dragowoman

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Sun, 07-14-2013 - 5:43pm

I have two close guys friends that I find a lot easier being friends with than my girlfriends sometimes.  Maybe it's because a lot of guys are drama free?  lol who know.

And congrats on the apartment.  Will send positive vibes your way!  I hope it works out for you.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 07-14-2013 - 5:47pm

Sometimes lately I think that maybe it would just be a lot easier to have guy friends.  I met a guy earlier this year & I couldn't tell if he liked me as a friend or more--I have to say he gave mixed signals there.  Unfortunately a friend told him that I liked him and he told me that he only liked me as a friend--now I am embarrassed and really want to avoid seeing him for a while.  But if I had known from the beginning that he only wanted to be friends and go out dancing and I had adjusted my mind to that, it would have been better--I could have enjoyed his company & just had fun and not started thinking anything would come from that.  Now I met another guy in a meetup group--he seems to be very busy organizing things with this group and he doesn't live that close to me, although it wouldn't be impossible to date, so right now I'm just looking at getting to know him better and hopefully becoming friends.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 07-15-2013 - 7:33am

yes I def. agree that men seem to be easier at being friends with because of the drama free thing..

Music.. well its not too late to see if that guy and you can be friends... I know the expectations are higher when we want something romantic and its always rearing its ugly head in us and that is the way we are wired and we do deserve to have love and be loved..

thanks for the comments everyone.. Its nice to see others perspectives..

 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 07-15-2013 - 11:48am

Are you talking about the 1st guy who I went out with?  I think it would be hard to be friends now at least for a while.  First he told me he is dating someone else so it's unlikely that he needs to have women friends to go out with.  And then our friend told him I was interested in him so that's embarrassing--if she had said nothing. i could have figured it out for myself that he wasn't interested if he didn't call me.  Then I just could have acted cool like it didn't matter to me--but now that he knows I was interested in him & he told me he's not interested in me, it's very awkward.  I need some time with not seeing him to get over the whole embarrassing situation.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 07-15-2013 - 3:08pm

Yikes. Music your post is not there anymore or did you delete it?

Ivillage is nutty but okay..

Anyway;; Not sure what guy friend you are referring to Music but whoever it is let some time pass and he probably wont remember a thing.. After some time if he is around and you can be friends then okay and if not you can find another guy to be friends with.. The more friends the merrier.. LOL

Heck; I am even sort of friends at times with my nutty exHusband and I have yet to figure that one out.. but there must be some reason for it so we stay in touch from time to time.. I try and not discount any sort of friendship .. I think there are all kinds of relationships and now learning that its a give and take and we get what we need from them and visa versa.. I dont think one man even can give us all we need so its nice to have a variety....

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Mon, 07-15-2013 - 4:17pm

No I didn't delete it--so did you originally read it but now it disappeared?  That's really wierd.

I do know that things change with time.  First of all, I know the guy probably just met this new girl around the same time he met me--she definitely wasn't a long term GF, so who knows what will happen with her?  Maybe she won't work out and eventually he'll come calling or crawling back.

But I do know it happens with a bunch of guys.  I hope they will like me and when it's evident they don't, then I accept that's the situation and can still be friends with them as long as they are nice to me.