New guy friend--wish it was more though
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|Sat, 10-05-2013 - 10:12am|
I know I already mentioned that I met a guy this summer at salsa dancing & like him. Have you ever had a situation and intellectually you know that you probably wouldn't really make it as a couple but you still want to date the guy? I know for me it's just that I haven't dated anyone in so long and here's a fun attractive guy who likes to dance. But I don't think we'd be compatible long term--his job situation is very iffy right now. He graduated from law school recently and is shall we say under-employed--he's unsure whether to try to get a job with a firm or go back to what he used to do (he's older--this is a 2nd career). I'm 8 yrs older than he is and I think he's more interested in women who are younger. He'd like to get married since he has never been married, while since I've been divorced twice, I definitely don't want to get married again. So it's probably better that we are just friends. But I'm still attracted to him, so those pesky hormones get in the way!
So we've been seeing each other about once a week. The summer dance program ended. I invited the meetup group to come to a free open house at my dance studio--he & one other girl were signed up, then she canceled. So yesterday he was emailing me with questions about how many people will come, if not enough people come will they cancel it, blah blah and finally I said to him--well just let me know by 5:00 if you're coming or not cause if no one comes, there's no reason for me to go. So just as I was leaving and had shut off my computer, he emailed me to call him after I got out of work. I didn't see that, but I called him anyway. He started saying that he wasn't feeling that great but maybe if he took a short nap, he'd feel better. So later he called me when I was home & said sorry but he was actually feeling worse so he couldn't come--but then we talked on the phone for an hour. It was quite the range of subjects from work to dancing to relationships. He says to me "are you single?" Well I thought that was kind of obvious, but yes. "Are you looking?" I said of course I"m looking. So that led to the discussion about online dating. Oh and I think he's still hung up on this woman he liked from law school who he found out just married someone else, so another reason not to date him. So I am happy though that it seems like we are actually becoming friends instead of someone just to see sometimes at dancing. He did ask if I was going to an event tonight, but I have other plans. He said if we don't see each other at salsa soon, we will make plans to get together to talk. I actually might see him Monday--now that I found out he is taking a dance lesson right near where I work that I was thinking of taking anyway.
Well, a lot of rambling from me. Why doesn't it happen that I find someone I"m attracted to who is actually good for a relationship?