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Wed, 05-16-2007 - 2:03am

I just can't seem to keep anyone interested in being with me for longer than a couple of months, and with my last boyfriend, he'd even been cheating on me. I feel like I'm a "temp. girl"...guys lower their standards enough to pretend they want to be with me, so they have someone to fool around with while they keep an eye open for someone better.

Anyone else feel this way?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: soma_holiday
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 7:44am

I don't think it's about lowering standards.

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Registered: 11-21-2005
In reply to: soma_holiday
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 1:55pm
I'm sorry to hear you're having some frustrations.
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In reply to: soma_holiday
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 3:19pm
I know you didn't ask for advice but, I encourage my girlfriends to not "fool around" until it becomes apparent that the guy is interested in more than just a physical relationship. This makes it so much easier to weed through all the jerks.
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In reply to: soma_holiday
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 4:19pm

Thanks, you guys! lol, usually I think it's nice to be single, but it seems like everyone I know is currently engaged/married/having babies.

cfk, I totally get you on that, and if I happen to find myself in a relationship, I'm certainly not fooling around early on, for that very reason. If a guy is just interested in getting physical, I don't see the point of faking a relationship to get it. "Friends with benefits" and one-night stands don't work for /everyone/, but that doesn't mean they don't work at all. As long as both parties know there's nothing more to it than that, there is no problem.