New here, dating frustrations!

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Registered: 04-21-2003
New here, dating frustrations!
Mon, 10-27-2003 - 5:58pm
Hello, is this the right place for me to vent about dating & men? I hang out at the guy talk board, but that just didn't seem like the right place for this. Dangit! I was supposed to have a date tonight and the guy left me a message on my phone mail - cancelling - because, apparently he is getting back with his girlfriend to 'work things out' and didn't want to start something we couldn't finish. I am pissed! I told everyone at work and was all excited about nothing!

Did I mention I'm new to the dating scene, and boy, what a learning experience so far! Is this typical? I guess its better he told me now, rather than 2/3 weeks down the road, when there might be feelings involved. Still, I am disappointed. I met this guy on-line and we emailed a few times, and talked on the phone 1x and seemed to hit it off well. Oh well, I just needed to vent my frustrations at this whole thing. I can't believe men are so inconsiderate! (Didn't he know 2 days ago when he made the date that he was thinking of his ex?) I could go off on a tangent here, so I'll just stop now. I'm going shopping . . .

Avatar for cl_shywon
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 10-27-2003 - 6:37pm

Well, to answer your question, YES, this is the way it is.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-27-2003 - 7:59pm
This is why I never make a big deal about a guy or a date or a relationship until things are solid and exclusive and even then I downplay it - it sure helped a lot when my ex and I broke up after 4 months of dating, two months ago - little explanation needed at my office. I think it's fine what he did - better than going out with you and hooking up and then telling you. Dating to me is a part time job - first dates, internet dates, set ups - sometimes it is fun, sometimes it becomes a relationship - most of the time, it doesn't.