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| Sun, 06-10-2007 - 12:43am |
I am new to this board but not to Ivillage.
This is going to sound a bit crazy and maybe I should just check myself into the local ward but I it is really getting to me.
I have a huge crush on this guy and he doesn't even know who I am.
I look at his myspace all the time just to see his smile.
I sent him a message once and he answered but that was it.
I sent him another message a few days ago nothing special just hey I hear you are in town, but no answer. (I am pretty sure he splits time in another state)
The thing is, he is kind of a local celebrity of sorts. I mean he is not Brad Pitt with the cameras and all but a lot of people know who he is because of his job.
I don't want to be a stalker or anything but I can't get this guy out of my head. I just know I have to meet him..
I realize this sounds crazy coming from someone my age (late 20's) but I can't stop thinking about him.
Any advise?
This is going to sound a bit crazy and maybe I should just check myself into the local ward but I it is really getting to me.
I have a huge crush on this guy and he doesn't even know who I am.
I look at his myspace all the time just to see his smile.
I sent him a message once and he answered but that was it.
I sent him another message a few days ago nothing special just hey I hear you are in town, but no answer. (I am pretty sure he splits time in another state)
The thing is, he is kind of a local celebrity of sorts. I mean he is not Brad Pitt with the cameras and all but a lot of people know who he is because of his job.
I don't want to be a stalker or anything but I can't get this guy out of my head. I just know I have to meet him..
I realize this sounds crazy coming from someone my age (late 20's) but I can't stop thinking about him.
Any advise?

I actually have been in your shoes before. I was head over heels in love with a local celebrity (baseball player) here in Kansas City a couple of years ago. He was not even a big local celebrity and he was barely a starter for the Royals, but he was BEAUTIFUL!!!
I kept telling myself that if I could just meet him face to face that he would want me.
But, I met him and his beautiful smile and it was over in minutes. I was able to meet him a couple of times to get an autograph and share a quick simple conversation at a bar I knew he went to. While he did look at me he just had ZERO interest (I think I am pretty good looking female, 5'7 120 lbs blonde hair and green eyes, boob job, lawyer). I was actually upset about it but then again that was expected.
I kept telling myself that he would want me but then I finally realized the reality; Most of those guys have tons of beautiful women at their disposal and they are interested in exceptional looks, no tie-downs or baggage (I have kids), and they want the type of women that hang out at the Playboy mansion (regardless of how sweet they seem in public and in front of camera's). I follwed his website and notcied soon after he started dating someone that was a celebrity herself.
I just finally realized that I could have a huge (in love) crush on him and be ok with it. Now I am the same with Tim McGraw, Keith Urban, and Derek Jeter :)
I have met him in person but it was a little over 2 years ago and very brief. He is a very good looking guy but he loves kids and does a lot of charity work for them and always carries around one and sometimes two of his neices and nephews. I have a little girl also.
I have asked around but noone REALLY knows him.
Missstuart....I know what you are saying...trust me I get it...that is why I haven't gone to my friends with this..Honestly I think they would have me committed.
It is just so not me. I am the level headed one.
I do have a huge crush on Kenny Chesney but it is not the same thing...I have met him a few times and know what you mean about the woman.
Thanks everyone.
Still praying I could run into him!
I think in your situation if you are talking about a local mayor, clergyman, or someone who is on television alot (District Attorney) then that would be a different story. I would understand a chance too.
But, if it is any type of professional athlete, then I don't think you should have your hopes up. They make millions of dollars and they are in a different league than the rest of society. They treat it that way too. So unless you have the height of Cameron Diaz, the looks of Jennifer Aniston, and the money of Paris Hilton then I would say leave it as a crush so you would not be let down. Or, someone may consider that stalking and I am sure that you would not want that wrap.
Look at Eva Longoria's man Tony Parker. He plays for the San Anonio Spurs. She is pretty good-looking, rich, and a star herself :). He is just your standard Professional Athlete.
As far as charities go and children hype, that is all for the media. They start that in college and their agents probably hound them about doing charity stuff so they can write off alot of that as donations for their taxes. Professional athletes are fake and they know they have it all and they know they can get whatever they want.
Lastly, You saw him on his MySpace? How many "other" female friends does he have? He splits time in another state? What do the women look like that are from the other state?
How many women are thinking about the same thing you are thinking about?
I am sure whatever is on his myspace is approved by his agent. I would not doubt it if his agent is the one responding to your emails.