A New Spin on Things

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
A New Spin on Things
Tue, 02-26-2013 - 11:18am

So lately and for the last few months I have been studying and really getting into metaphysics, laws of attraction type stuff; Abraham and Hicks and energy work and although this seems like old news what I am discovering a newness about it and doing it differently......Now I finally get this after so much time of watching this stufff and reading about it..

What I have come to know is that its not the hoping and wishing and trying to find a mate but the manifestation of finding a mate and that could be without any effort.. So all of the dating sites and going out and singles events wont necessarily get us a mate as we know but manifesting this person into our lives is the way to do it and that could mean by any other means.This person could just fall out of the sky for us if we manifest it.... .

I thought I understood the laws of attraction but apparantley I was doing it all wrong.. Right now I have manifested some other things and it came without effort.. I think without effort is the key..

I am starting to put more positive spins on things no matter how hard it is and now I say when I get this or that or when I have this or that and not exactly searching for it but our energy levels have to vibrate on the level of the cause and effect.. If the energy within us is low we attract lower things but if our energy is high we attract higher things that we need like money, relationships, etc.etc..

I know that when my energy vibrates on a higher level people come to me instead of the opposite and other things come to me much more effortlessly..but this is not without doing the work of raising the vibrations and matching them to whatever we need..

Just Saying!!!!



iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 02-26-2013 - 2:34pm

Do you know how you exactly "manifest" someone?  I have done positive thinking but that hasn't seemed to work.  lol  I remember reading The Secret and all I remember about the chapter on finding a mate is the woman who parked her car in the middle of the garage couldn't find a DH because she was taking up all the space.  I think of that when I use the whole bedroom closet for my clothes--but then I have a lot of clothes--I use both bureaus too.  I think I have given up on actively "looking" and just seeing what is going to happen.  It's not like I am staying home & being a hermit because certainly I'm not going to find anyone that way, I still place myself into situations where I might meet someone, but that isn't necessarily my goal for the night--just being open to whatever happens.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Tue, 02-26-2013 - 2:59pm

Okay lets see what you said and its going to be very hard to explain on here so I am suggesting you check out Abraham and Hicks on Utube and watch the videos..

you said I might find someone if I go out.. Now that is the wrong thinking...You have to say I will I will find someone and you also said I wont find someone if I dont go out.. This is old 3D thinking and no matter how much you go out you wont necessarily meet someone. So its not that you go out to find someone but the reality is in your mind that is what you really want... You say that you go out for fun but ask yourself is that really true?? Okay maybe its for fun and getting out but the real reason isnt it to try and find a mate?? Now you have to change that thinking and not think I am going out to find someone but think I will find someone somewhere out there in Universe and that could be in a grocery store, at the gas station or at a bus stop or at work or through a friend... Its not where you meet them but when you meet them.. Am I making sense??

So even if you went out seven days a week and yes for fun and socializing you are still not manifesting a particular person because your intention is to try and find a mate.. Your intention and manifestation should be I am going to meet someone no matter where that is and I will be open to the opportunity and blessings.. Now in saying that you would also have to raise your vibrations and awareness and energy with either meditation or prayer or any way that is best for you... and see what works for you..Or you could also do affirmation cards or that vision board..or just simply wake up in morning and say over and over I will manifest this and think it and say it and feel it and live in in the moment of each and everyday. all the way into your soul and psyche and it goes out into the Universe and it happens...

Not sure I made sense but this is what I get out of the Laws of Attraction...


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2006
Wed, 02-27-2013 - 5:55pm

I 'manisfested' my soul mate by putting in 20+ hrs a week on multiple dating sites for a year and a half and knowing myself well enough to understand what I was looking for so that when she came along, bam!

Not exactly effortless though.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-28-2000
Fri, 03-01-2013 - 11:05am
Hi Free, I agree with you. Our life is a reflection of our state of mind. We need to think positive things about everything. God is love and you can't hurry God. The best person for you will come into your life. We must be ready for him. Each day I read the Secret, daily teachings so I can stay positive. Stay positive Free, love to you and your family!!!!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2008
Sat, 03-02-2013 - 10:16am

Positive thinking is great, but as far as finding the right man, it is a bunch of hooey. At least from my experience. But if it works for you, great.  I hope you prove me wrong!

Avatar for xxxs
Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 03-03-2013 - 4:07pm

  It is not just looking but having the mental adroitness to use what come your way.  People comes into our lives and unless you are able to strike right then the opportunity may not arise with that person again.  many times these situations happen but we are not open to the chance.


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2006
Sun, 03-03-2013 - 9:17pm

I'm for this law of attraction. If nothing else, it gives you peace of mind. I'm also into praying, affirmation, etc...all different names but it boils down to trusting the goodness and abundance of the universe. I haven't practiced it but it's  more than positive thinking. It has + thinking in it but it's much more. And I'm not opposed to working on it, like going out, or doing OLD (whatever avenue you use to expand your dating pool). Tuning into to a higher vibration is a good description. You change the energy around you and that positively affect the types of people you attract. Actually, when I'm not too focused on impressing a guy, I actually impress him more because I'm free to talk about things.

I've seen things happening through praying although with love, it's such a rocky road for me. I felt like my best opportunities have already passed. That's not the right mindset but it's how I feel now.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Wed, 03-06-2013 - 8:41am

By golly White Satin I think you have it girl..

Yes its about raising vibrations and energy levels and each person can raise theirs to however they want.. I raise mine with EFT tapping and accupressure and prayer.. Each person can choose their own modality..

So its not about meeting the right partner or it could be later down the road but for now its about raising energy and awareness and vibrations in the body and mind and soul and psyche... I find now that I attract people in general and men wherever I go.. Not any partner yet but I am hoping that could come.. Not exaclty thinking it is set in stone to meet a man but I am attracting people in general so I know that my vibration of energy is getting hi gher.. Yesterday a nice man started talking tome in grocery store.. He wasnt my tyep at all but we had a nice chat.. This happens to me lately anywhere I go restaurant and just out and about.. It hasnt happend like this before where I made too much effort in meeting people.. I was the one who always put myself out there.. Now I am going to wait and have the things come to me.. that is manifestation and laws of attraction..

Lets see what happens.. Its fascinating to say the least..

Avatar for cfk_3
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-1999
Wed, 03-06-2013 - 2:29pm

Free, do you think your attitude is more positive?  I tried to respond days ago and the site was all wonky.  What I was trying to attempt to share was, that I compare our energy to that of a light switch.  It's either on or it's off.  Sure, you may go out, you may look your best but if you aren't "on" or "alive" you may not get noticed.  I don't equate that with simply having a smile on your face and making polite conversation, either.  I visualize something akin to kenetic energy.  It's almost like having an "it" factor.  I think everyone has the potential.  I definitely see people every day who are not in tune to what's going on around them.  They are completely oblivious.  I have those days, myself.  I think it's a matter of knowing how and when to turn that switch on.  

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Wed, 03-06-2013 - 4:11pm

Hey CFK.. Yes the site has been wonky and I am finding it also some days hard to get on and all.

You are def. on the right track with this.. If you google Abraham  Hicks on Utube you can find the videos that will clear up the confusion. It is very confusing sometimes but yet its all about the energy levels.. Once you start raising your vibration or energy things will start to shift higher and people and even animals will be more in tune to you.. Its not only about attracting a mate but a job or friends or anything else in your life you need to have to manifest.. It does take awhile and the lower your energy is the more you have to raise it... There are days when yes energy is low and I notice that myself because I wont attract much.. On the high energy days I attract more..

Here is an example.. On a high energy day when I go out and about I might manifest people who are more friendly and open or I might find something I was looking for online or a book I was looking for in the store.. I believe all has to be lined up with the energies. Now you cannot see the energies but they are out there whether its people places or things... Your vibration has to align with the outside universe..

Does that make sense??

So the higher the vibration the higher you will achieve what you want?? thus laws of attraction... It could even be small things ......