New as well - hope it's okay...

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Registered: 03-25-2003
New as well - hope it's okay...
Sun, 06-29-2003 - 8:33pm
to just join in...

Well I'm 26 year old single female. Been single from my one and only serious relationship for since February -- Actually dated off and on for four years...the first two were great, the last two we were off and on all the time, (all on his doing, he's a complete jerk, but I'm trying not to dwell on that).

Over the last two years I've come a long way, I've tried to raise my self esteem, tried to feel better about myself, and want to find a healthy relationship.

Every once in a while I get this deep anxious fear that I'm going to be alone forever and that terrifies me. My weight is always been a big issue with me. Never dated in highschool and even though that was a long time ago it still seems to stick with me.

So yes I'm trying to be positive about being single, I'm taking courses, working lots etc, but still sometimes it would be nice to have a guy be interested in you. (I don't have many guy friends, and work with senior citizens so I'm not around many guys my age!)

Thanks for reading


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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 06-29-2003 - 9:38pm
Welcome to the board! Joining in is great! We like new people.

I know what you mean about wanting to at least know someone is interested. It's a little ego boost every once in a while, and it does wonders.

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Registered: 06-26-2003
Sun, 06-29-2003 - 11:03pm
Welcome to the board!! I have just joined myself in the past couple of days, and I will tell you its a great outlet and you can get some really good advice..

You are definetly right about having someone interested in you.. Like the other post said, its a great ego boost! Just have fun and be yourself.. that person WILL come along!!

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Registered: 07-17-2003
Thu, 07-17-2003 - 4:32pm
I am new here too. Just read your message and there are other people like you out there. I'm 25 and I just got out of a relationship 6 mnths ago after being with him for a year and a half. I thought I was going to marry him-- moved home to save money and everything and he dropped it on me- that I wasn't the "one." Whatever that means, I never saw it coming--- it was so out of the blue. I had been with someone for 5 years before him and at least I knew that we weren't meant to be and it wasn't such a shock. Its hard because I am in a post grad program and all I do is study and the guys I meet out are losers(not to mention, I feel very old as it is). I too feel like I will be alone forever and frankly, don't know if I want to spend time with someone who will inevitably break my heart. Not to depress you-- just wanted to tell you that there are more of us out there who feel that way...