Newbie to the board...need advice
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| Mon, 03-05-2007 - 4:15pm |
HI
I am new to the board. I am 25 and single(of course). I recently graduated from graduate school and I am working now and I really want to social more. I have spent the last two and a half years with my head in books that now I want to get out and be young. I am having a hard time meeting guys that I have interest in. In my graduate program, there was nothing but women so there was no chance of meeting a guy there. At my job there are no prospects. I have since joined a gym and there a lot of cute guys there but I havent been approached by anyone. I feel that since I am not one of those hard bodies most of the dudes arent really interested. I hope to one day be one of those hard bodies so I use there disinterest as fuel to work out even harder.
I want to go out and meet people but there are few places that I feel like going alone. Most of my friends are either married and have given up their going out pass to be with their husbands. I have one friend who is still single but she works all the time. I am tried of the online thing. I never really meet anyone that i am attracted to and that is " my age" and I dont want to settle. I am an attractive woman and I just dont understand why its not happening for me. I am African-American female and had a long-term fling/relationship with a jewish guy I met in college. I want to break away from this situation and be with someone who isnt afraid to be with me. But its just so damn hard. I feel like I am never going to find anyone. Its like everything in my life is going great besides this one area. I just dont understand what I am doing wrong!

I am running out the door, so don't have enough time to respond fully, but I thought I'd share a few places I have met men recently. Not all of these have produced dates, but at least nice conversations, shared glances, etc.
-- The large park in town. I walk my dog there when it's nice out, and there are men galore. (Having a dog helps break down the conversation barrier).
-- The local bookstore. I just hang out and flip through books for awhile.
-- The coffee shop. See above. (I go in the morning before work - best time to meet employed men).
-- Church. I go to a really young, non-traditional church. Very low key and cool people.
-- The dog park. See number one above.
-- The natural grocery store. For some reason, attracts more younger men than the regular market.
I'll write more later. :) The bottom line is they are out there. I was frustrated with the online dating thing as well, and have been pleasantly surprised at how many men I actually can meet in real life. Again, I'm not swarmed with people asking for dates, but it's nice to know there are possibilities.
AJ, enjoying life with C.