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| Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:06pm |
Hi everyone! I found this board and it looks like you all give some good advice.
Here's a little about me: I'm 25 in Austin, Texas. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of two years about a month ago. Apparently he didn't feel any passion anymore and didn't feel that either of us was really in love with the other. Our schedules never work out right and we were only seeing each other maybe a couple of hours each week. So we decided to try the friend thing. Neither of us have many good friends nearby so we didn't want to lose out on a friendship with each other.
Anyway, back to me. I have a beagle jack russell mix who keeps me entertained. I am training her for agility competitions, our first one will be at the end of the month. I work for the state's environmental commission and I also tutor on the side. So all in all I stay pretty busy with everything.
I'm looking forward to meeting you all and probably getting some advice later on!
Trina

listen...i am 38 and have tried the friends thing with 3 other men i was previously involved in(pre-marital days) ...it does not work. it is better to cut your losses and forget about them.
UNLESS OF COURSE, you have children by them...then the FRIEND thing is literally forced upon you. I am divorced and have kids...it ain't easy being friends to an X-hubby. He's with another but he still tries to do the ol' song n dance routine about "US"...which i no longer fall for.
IF you can remain friends with out the sex and the flirting....go for it, but i guarantee it will be hard to do because you have already had a sexual relationship with him. True, some people have been able to pull it off. Most of us can't. Good luck.
Welcome to the board, Trina.
I'm sure you'll find some interesting discussions around here... we talk about a variety of topics from the serious to the light-hearted. It's a pretty good group!
Welcome, Trina!
Thanks for the luck! It has been a little awkward so far. I'm limiting my time with him for a while b/c I know that it's going to take some time to forget about the physical part that we had.
Trina
Olie has great focus on me when we are on the agility field - probably mostly because she knows I have treats in my pocket! Some of the dogs in our class don't have much of an attention span either, it takes the owner a lot to get them to do what they are supposed to do.
Nice to meet you!
Trina
Hello, Trina and everyone. My name is Beth, I'm 29, and I am new to being single and new to this board. I was dating someone for three years and it was a pretty bad relationship that I wanted out of, but couldn't bear to leave - yada yada. then I met someone else while doing a play and immediately ended the 3-year relationship for this other guy (He was the star, I was vulnerable) I recently broke up with rebound guy after the play wrapped (he turned out to be a flake) and all's well that ends well.
The original ex lives across the street from me and we are actually great friends because he knows he was a jerk to me when we were together and as a result, I have no romantic feelings for him whatsoever. However, that being said, I do have to keep my guard up because he is very sweet and available now and I don't want to get sucked back in.
Only you know if you can handle being friends with your ex. Trust your gut and keep plenty of girlfriends around to give you solid advice. Keep us all posted. Also, the single thing is a little difficult for me, so any tips on surviving alone in a world of couples - let me know!
Luckily for me with our schedules being so crazy we don't really talk that much anyway. It's getting easier and easier to think of him as just a friend - I just hope he's feeling that way about me. There were a couple weeks of not really understanding what we meant by friends. I'm slowly starting to call my girlfriends more and him less to talk about things that are going on. It's hard when you break up and want to be friends b/c you know that you can still call him and vent or get advice and makes it so much easier for you to be vunerable to getting hurt. I think I have it down now though - getting back to being myself again.
Trina
I'm glad to hear that you are feeling "like yourself" again. us girls tend to lose ourselves in relationships because we are natural nurturers. It will get easier and more natural feeling to rely on yourself. then you'll be better suited for your next relationship. I understand what you said about being used to calling him to vent or whatever. That will pass also. I have spent much of my teens and twenties "with someone" so I'm interested to experience myself as a singular. I think it reminds you of who you are. Enjoy yourself as a free woman and do keep coming back to the board.