No follow through

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No follow through
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Thu, 06-19-2008 - 12:22am

If I could weave a common thread through all the men I've dated/met/emailed/talked to over the past 5 or so years, it'd be that very few of them have any follow through skills at all.

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 12:52am
Trust me it's not the age. Men have just gotten lazy. I can't count how many times I or a friend previously had a date that couldn't even plan the date! The day of said date, they call and are like "what do you wanna do?"!!!! So lazy!!! How about some romance. Plus, i've had a guy take me to burger king and had wanted me to pay for myself!
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Thu, 06-19-2008 - 5:31am

Cl-Shywon,


Geez .... I thought this problem was isolated to Australians. I don't understand why a guy puts himself out there and gets your number but doesn't step up to claim his prize. I have been talking to a guy for eight months who finally asked me for my phone number. He managed to call me a few times and has even made a pathetic attempt to ask me out ie 6:40pm on a Saturday night but told me yesterday that he doesn't make plans. I said that you can either learn to ask me out in advance or don't ask me. Another thing I hate while I'm venting is guys who say they are laidback or easy going only because they

 

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Registered: 07-20-2006
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 9:55am

I never had this problem when I was younger.

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Thu, 06-19-2008 - 10:45am

Maybe it's because in college, we didn't really "date" like now.

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Thu, 06-19-2008 - 10:49am

I'd lose interest long before eight months was up!

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Thu, 06-19-2008 - 10:54am
Well it's definitely much easier to meet people when you're in college; that's for sure. But even for a number of years afterwards I met a lot of lazy, no follow through guys that always expected me to be up for a day the day of. Which frankly, I'm busy! I don't wait around for you to call!
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Thu, 06-19-2008 - 11:01am

I don't mind a "day of" plan once in awhile after I'm dating a guy for awhile, but until we've established a routine like an expected date on the weekends, I can't stand no plan.

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Registered: 08-16-2005
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 1:08pm

I think it's the introduction of the internet. Their use of it as their personal dating catalog. I am finding the same thing you are. I find the men are so lazy. The seriously want to hang out and consider it dating. Ummm no I don't want to hang out at your house as our date thanks. A date is us going OUT somewhere. If you and I were a couple than we could hang out at your house and eat a pizza but you aren't my boyfriend.


They want to immediately jump into that comfort zone so you let down your guard and jump in the rack with them and if you don't want too they know there are 50 other women on the internet who are available to them and maybe there will be 1 or 2 desperate enough who will. BLECH!

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 3:39pm
I really think some guys try to keep girls on the backburner in case something else that peaks their interest more doesnt come along. Shame. Women do it too though. Explains why a guy calls after two weeks with the "ive been busy" excuse. Also, a guy who says he doesnt make plans, just doesnt want to make plans in case soemthing else comes up he'd rather do! Lame
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Thu, 06-19-2008 - 3:55pm

I think it's the internet, too.

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