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|Mon, 09-10-2012 - 7:31pm|
Hello everyone, I had a question that I hope I can get some answers for from here. Reading thru some of the previous posts, I do notice an underlying theme. A lot of men don't know how to ask women out, and that women do not like a man that can't approach them, indicates a lack of confidence. While this is not news to me, I am hoping to go a little deeper. I'm a 33yr man that has never approached a woman first. And yes it is a confidence thing, but not what you'd think. I just have no idea what I'd say! You know back in high school, that geeky boy that was always friendly to the girls but never had a girlfriend... That was me, and sadly still is. Highly introverted, I am used to watching people. Which has made me very good at reading and empathising with people, but also added an increased sense of self-awareness.. Having seen so many of my female friends approached with the numerous bad pick up lines, and lousy approaches, and seen how they react in the moment and after the unlucky guy is sent packing, I never want to be that guy.So I have often let opportunity pass by because I just have no idea what to say to a woman to get things rolling. I've been lucky to have had women that approached me, at which point I picked it up and kept it going.one of those resulting in a very happy 8yr marriage, but after that passed, i find myself back in that uncomfortable state of being single and having no idea what to do. I don't think I'll get lucky twice, and have an amazing woman just fall in my lap, so I figure I have to get out of my comfort zone, and learn how to pickup women. And before some says it.. I know how to talk to women, most of my closet friends have always been female. But talking to a lady as a good friend, or co-worker, and approaching a lady out of romantic interest seem to be to very different things.
So I guess the point of my post is give guys some slack. Some of us are really great but just have no idea how to approach the beautiful lady that captures our attention.
and my question is what are some good ways you have been approached?