I think there are lots of "decent" men out there, cause I've dated many. The real problem is that they usually aren't initially attracting women ie. they aren't always the one woman notice in a room. Women are just as visual as men ans I think sometimes we also overlook the average looking guys or the guys who have a few extra pounds on them or the balding guys. Since we're not immediately attracted, we dont even consider that he could be a truly great catch.
I have struggled with this for years, so I understand how you feel. First, it was that no good men were out there. They were all scumbags who wanted to take advantage of any woman they come across. Now I have recognized that there are in fact a lot of great men out there. I have at least a dozen really great guy friends. The problem then is getting guys attracted to ME. Sure, there are good guys out there.. But they just don't want ME. Before, I thought there were no good ones and I had a scapegoat. Now I know they are out there, but I'm still invisible, which is worse. That is really painful and confusing because I don't think there is anything wrong with me in both personality and looks. So I definitely feel rejected by men all the time.. especially with all the skanky women walking around, putting normal classy women in the shadows simply because they show so much skin.
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I sympathize with you, however, at age 40, I can honestly say I don't feel the same.
I thought I was the only one who thought that way! I guess there is some truth to my dilemma.
Thanks for posting.
Karla
I think there are lots of "decent" men out there, cause I've dated many. The real problem is that they usually aren't initially attracting women ie. they aren't always the one woman notice in a room. Women are just as visual as men ans I think sometimes we also overlook the average looking guys or the guys who have a few extra pounds on them or the balding guys. Since we're not immediately attracted, we dont even consider that he could be a truly great catch.
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