No idea!

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Registered: 09-01-2005
No idea!
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Tue, 01-03-2006 - 9:14am

So I have another little story for everyone.

Last night I was in a class at the gym. There were only about 6 people in the class so the instructor was chatting with everyone. There was a new gal in the class so the instructor was asking her name, age, occupation, etc. The gal, Victoria*, said she was 26 and worked at a cable company. The rest of the conversation went like this:

Instructor: "Twenty-six, huh? Are you married?"
Victoria: "Nope. Single."
Instructor: "Wow, there are a lot of older single girls in this class. Let's see, we have you , Jamie*, Lesley and Erin*. Wow, how come all you 26, 27 and 28 year old girls aren't married?"
Victoria: (looking completely shocked) "Don't know."
Jamie: "Not ready, I guess."
Me: "I just thought it was a requirement for this class and I really like this class, so..." (note sarcasm) :-)
Instructor: "Well, don't feel bad girls, I have friends in their late thirties that are still single. You're way better off than they are." (Was this supposed to make us feel better?)

I'm around mostly positive people in my life. I like to complain about my friends and family every so often but by and large, they accept me, encourage me, and love me for who I am. So when I hear someone like this, I'm just so amazed there are people like this. And with the nerve to call 26-28 year old women "older". Ugh, it was frustrating. I think I'll drop a comment in the box that requests the instructor just teach the class and zip it when it comes to analyzing the participant's personal lives.
"My advice," says the isntructor, "marry for love." Yeah, her husband must be a loser. :-)

*Names changed to protect the innocently single.

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Registered: 09-01-2004
In reply to: lesleylou
Tue, 01-03-2006 - 12:02pm
That's terrible - I would have told her that I was not paying her for relationship advice, that I was paying her to lead an exercise group and that she should stick to what she knows. How presumptuous of her!
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Registered: 08-13-2005
In reply to: lesleylou
Tue, 01-03-2006 - 1:15pm
Wow, that's just so rude! I can't even fathom why a gym instructor would be asking people in her class about things like that- absolutely none of her business and has nothing to do with fitness. For all she knew you could have all been lesbians. Or what if the Victoria girl was married but was a recent widow and burst out crying upon being asked about her husband. So many reasons why asking about relationship status in that environment is inappropriate.
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Registered: 04-13-2004
In reply to: lesleylou
Tue, 01-03-2006 - 1:37pm
She obviously has no idea what it is like to be single in your late twenties. She is inconsiderate and has a jaded perspective.
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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: lesleylou
Tue, 01-03-2006 - 2:07pm

Oh wow....I do hope you leave some sort of comment about her with the gym. That was terrible and rude of her to discuss in front of the class. Come on now, stick to aerobics lady!!

Geesh

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Registered: 10-27-2005
In reply to: lesleylou
Tue, 01-03-2006 - 3:21pm
if she was asking such questions she probably has a crappy husband or no man in her life either and needs to put others down and ask such questions
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Registered: 09-01-2005
In reply to: lesleylou
Tue, 01-03-2006 - 5:21pm
Oh yeah, it was all kinds of wrong. Most of all though, I was just stunned that people thought this way.
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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: lesleylou
Tue, 01-03-2006 - 7:47pm

There's no way to fully express my reaction to that through e-mail/msg board. Unbelievable! People are just so completely stupid sometimes that it just blows my mind.

It's times like that that I really wish I were better at comebacks. How about, "yeah, there seem to be a lot of loudmouth instructors in this gym, too." OR "Why is that your advice? Did you marry for money?"

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 09-01-2005
In reply to: lesleylou
Tue, 01-03-2006 - 11:05pm

I've been thinking on and off all day trying to come up with something that would insult her in a round-about-way.
I like that loudmouth instructor comment. Might have to work with that one! I'm betting she did marry for love but instead of being genuine about it, it's something she tells herself to compensate for having a loser husband.

Ok, that was snarky, I'll admit it. I certainly know nothing about her husband (except for his bad taste in women) but I've got a grudge. :-)

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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: lesleylou
Wed, 01-04-2006 - 1:26pm
LOL. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.