no love

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no love
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Fri, 06-06-2003 - 2:43pm
i been single for almost a month now. probably more. and not one guy has wanted to be with me. nothing seems to be going well at all. besides the fact that my dances (ballet and jazz) have turned out just right. my dance rehersal is tonite and my recital is tomorrow. yay! hopefully things will change because i am getting rather lonely.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: joes_girl315
Fri, 06-06-2003 - 4:11pm
You sound too desperate to be in a relationship. What's wrong with being on your own for a while? Being single for a month is not very long. Why is this bothering you?
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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: joes_girl315
Fri, 06-06-2003 - 4:24pm
I'm going to agree with Schnappsers (I hope I spelled that right!). A month is not a long time to be single. As you get older, you'll get pickier and you'll go months without even a date, maybe years. It's not a huge deal if you keep yourself busy with other interests.

Good luck. I'm sure there will be another guy who comes along sometime.

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Registered: 04-03-2003
In reply to: joes_girl315
Fri, 06-06-2003 - 4:58pm
i agree as well i've been single for about 6mo. i do have to say the first month is the rounghest it gets easier=)
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Registered: 06-06-2003
In reply to: joes_girl315
Fri, 06-06-2003 - 6:42pm
Have you considered the possiblity that you may never have a permanant relationship again. Why hurry then to look for people if dating is all you will have the rest of your life. Let it be enjoyable instead of a worry and learn to put other things in higher priority.
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In reply to: joes_girl315
Sat, 06-07-2003 - 9:47am
If you are truly depressed because you've been single for a month - if you truly cannot be without male companionship for a month - it's not the men who are the problem - it is you, and he state of your life. Please work on getting a life so that you will have something to give in your next relationship.
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Registered: 04-07-2003
In reply to: joes_girl315
Sat, 06-07-2003 - 11:08pm
1 month? 6 months? Y'all are lightweights. I haven't had a DATE in 6 going on 7 YEARS. I wouldn't know what to do if a guy asked me out. I would probably say no.

Right now, something quick, cheap and tawdry would do me some good... but that's SO not my style.

joes_girl315, good luck on your dance recital!

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Registered: 05-18-2003
In reply to: joes_girl315
Mon, 06-09-2003 - 2:28am
I think you're being pretty tough on her. I think feeling lonely is a valid emotion, especially when right out of a relationship. I don't blame her at all! I have friends who rebound so fast and I just shake my head when they tell me how scared they are of being "single". I just laugh and say I've been single my whole life and it's not so bad! (This is mostly true...I have had boyfriends but not much). Anyway...hang in there...good luck, and I know how you feel. :D
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In reply to: joes_girl315
Mon, 06-09-2003 - 3:53pm
i agree being single is tough at first its actually tough at alot of times i still feel lonely at times and like i said it is the toughest the first month you have the nightmares and readjusting and just feeling all kinds of confused i still get these feelings its been about six months and especially when you fell in love with your ex that's the hardest part...you learn to live day by day or as i did it moment by moment. my favorite saying is i live life a quarter mile at a time lol i race cars so its a good analogy for me=) if you ever need someone to chat with and have aim i'm centeromalley i'm usually on at nights yes i still have trouble sleeping lol well good luck and things will get better
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In reply to: joes_girl315
Tue, 06-10-2003 - 7:28am
hey you all. i have been single for 3 months really but it might as well have been 6...long story and i start work today. YAY! i am getting better...can't wait for college though. i am doing everygthing i ever thought of doing. it's working quite well. well i wil write back after i get off of work.
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Registered: 05-28-2003
In reply to: joes_girl315
Tue, 06-10-2003 - 1:01pm
yea Pooh, I don't feel so alone now! I haven't had a relationship since 2000, and have BARELY casually dated since then.

JoesGirl, take this time to enjoy the things that are important to you... something I've figured out is that if you don't love yourself, it's really not worth it trying to find someone else to love you. Independence and our confidence in ourselves is a huge part of what is attractive anyways. =) Love yourself for a while (y'all can take that however you want) and the rest will fall into place. =)