No wonder some girls are single!
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| Tue, 08-09-2005 - 7:26pm |
Hi all! I'm not here to be negative I actually love this board! My best friend who's single posts here all the time! I'm actually happily married but I need to vent about a few things! Has anyone seen that new TV show called "hooking up?" I mean, no offense to the single gals out there but no wonder some girls are single! They pick on the little and stupid things and forget about the bigger picture! The guy can never be too tall or too rich or too outgoing or classy! Don't get me wrong, I don't think anyone should settle for less but I mean come on! My husband and I dated for 3 years then we got married will be 2 years next month. When I met him he didn't have much money and lived with his parents, he drove an old pick up truck that was falling apart, in fact, on our second date the muffler fell off literally and we had to drive back to his parents so he could borrow his dad's car...He also had lots of bills to pay and had not finished college yet ( he was 24 at the time). He had lots of things working agaist him but I didn't look down on him for it! I saw the kindness in him, the way he treated his parents with so much respect, the way he was so dedicated to me and put me first, how hard he worked at his job even though his boss was a jerk, how he didn't give up on school even though he worked 50-60 hours a week he still took night classes.
I gave him a chance and he just bloomed! Now, he's got a great job where he has 17 people under him and he makes a lot of money, he just bought me a car, we travel quite often. Life is good for us! I coudn't be happier! I realize that there are many guys out there that are not worth the time of day but please try to overlook certain things if you can...
Istead of looking for the perfect guy, look for a guy with potential and help him become the best he can be and he will do anything for you!
I hope this helps!
Lulubee

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I've never dated an ignorant man.
Okay, I'm about to try and defend my point of view to a brick wall here, but here goes.
I am overweight. I have lost weight and am still losing it. I do not eat 5 times a day. Sometimes I'm lucky if I get to eat ONCE a day. I have a very active lifestyle - I belong to a dance demo team and I dance for several hours a week. During weeks that I don't dance so much, I try to get other forms of exercise, like taking every opportunity to go for a walk. (For example, if I need to pick up a prescription or something small at the Walgreens up the street from my house, I walk instead of driving there).
I think you have made a rather inaccurate generalization towards overweight people. Just because they're overweight doesn't mean they're lazy or not trying to lose it. You don't know when you see a large woman passing you on the street if she's lost weight, or if she's eating healthy and exercising to lose more.
Sorry. I am just SO SICK of everyone who has never had trouble maintaining a healthy weight/eating lifestyle assuming that we're just a bunch of Twinkie-eating couch potatoes who never exercise.
By the way, there's plenty of THIN people who don't exercise and who eat too much, too. They're better than overweight people just because they're lucky enough to have a metabolism that keeps them from gaining weight?
And just so you know, there are LOTS of thin women who aren't "taken." A person's weight (or lack thereof) has NOTHING to do with whether or not they get dates. If you're overweight, your pool of candidates is smaller, sure. But there are LOTS and LOTS of guys who are more than happy to date them if they have great personalities and make the most of their appearances.
Okay, this is the end of my rant. I just wanted to get that off my chest. No, I'm not trying to change your mind. You're never going to, in fact, you're probably going to shoot back some antagonistic scientific evidence of why you think I'M wrong, but I don't care. I've gotten what I needed to out of this conversation.
BTW...I wanted to add...I have dated plenty of guys without nice cars. My current boyfriend has a 1995 Chevy Blazer that's held together with duct tape. To be honest, he's got a better idea than most of us who have car payments we can't afford. So that proves your theory wrong.
Oh, and I don't need to be educated about my body - I know. I just choose to eat what I want in moderation. If that means I lose the weight more slowly, so be it.
Also wanted to add, I recently had my yearly checkup and I am in PERFECT health. PERFECT. So :p on the "carelessness about health" comment, too.
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