The Non-Date cont'd: "Packaging"
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|Wed, 07-23-2003 - 10:03am|
For example, my own package would be: single, no kids, degreed, professional, stable employment (federal), good salary; hard-working, accomplished, recognized in my field; buying my own home, drive a paid-for, late-model car; relatively good health, exercise fairly often and moderately (but for recent surgery and/or injury); attractive, forthright, honest, sometimes brutally so, but never mean-spiritedly. Having listed these attributes, these are things that I seek in a mate. Since I'm a hard worker, I've no interest in a dilettante, etc. Any man I'm interested in has got to know what's in it for HIM as well, as well as what's in it for me.
Does anybody agree w/this concept of packaging? I bring it up b/c it seems to me that if we were all more aware of what we have to offer, we might be more apt to recognize the same in others (ie, men) and not "over-shoot" (or "under-shoot", for that matter) our "limit." This way, we become a little more realistic about who we're looking for and what we're likely to get. I can lust after Tom Cruise for the rest of my life, but even I know he'll never give me the time of day--he doesn't have to; the rest of the world is beating down his door.
Granted, I've got all the above, and love besides, if I meet a man I could love. But if that man is so "over my head" that I know he's out of my romantic strata, then I'll back off and look elsewhere. Yes, a good and sweet girl, w/all the love in the world, is attractive, but some men, by virtue just of who they ARE, can find good, sweet, loving girls--who are model-gorgeous, who come from $$, who are famous in their own right, etc. Those men can afford girls like that, and pass up someone like me, b/c their own "packages" allow it.
Bottom line is, do we know what kind of "package" we offer--and what kind of "draw" does that package have for what kind of man? Knowing this might fend off a lot of disillusionment and broken hearts, and possibly ruined lives.