Non Negotiables
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| Wed, 06-07-2006 - 10:41am |
In response to some of the things I've read around here lately, I've been trying to pin point some of my non negotiables... obviously we all have our "wants" like: tall, dark and handsome... and I know some people like to accuse us of being too picky because we have those... but I know we are just putting out there what we'd LIKE to have, they are somewhat negotiable. But what MUST you have?
Here is the start of my list (I won't bore you with too many):
1) he must have a love for my God (I say "my God" because he might love "God" but is it the same God I worship) and have a desire in his heart to serve our Father and center life around the reward promised to us.
2) his priorities in life must be in order. While career and outside activities are an important part of our lives - they must NOT come before God or our relationship.
3) he must be mentally stable and not be afraid to continually grow in that area.
4) he must have goals (I'd prefer if they were similar - not exact - but similar, to mine).
5) he shouldn't be afraid of "emotionality" (to be defined by me :p I'll spare you guys!).
Now... what are a few of your MUST HAVES?

My must-haves:
1) he must NOT smoke, I am totally against that
2) he must be commitment-minded, I am tired of sharing dates
3) he must respect my body, mind, thoughts and feelings
4) he must be openly affectionate with me
5) he must really, truly care about how I am as a person
That is all, really. Everything else I can work with.
This is hard for me because what I see as a must have is hard to define.
1) He must treat himself, others, and the world with respect.
2) He must be a non-smoker.
3) He must be compassionate toward animals, even if he isn't the animal-lover I am.
4) We must get each other's senses of humor and make each other laugh!
5) I need to feel he sees me for who I am ... at least to the extent that anyone can.
6) We must share the same basic values about a partnership.
7) He must be able to express his feelings.