Is this normal???

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Is this normal???
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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 10:18pm

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Registered: 11-17-2004
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 10:28pm

Personally, I think you are overreacting. I am the type of person that needs my alone time, so I don't see anything wrong with your guy wanting to have an evening to himself. I wouldn't worry about it.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 11:27pm

I am not really sure why you're upset.... There is nothing wrong with wanting one Friday night to yourself. Sometimes after a long week, the best thing to do to unwind, is to have quality time to yourself.

When I was in a serious relationship, I spent one weekday night with my guy and I would see him Saturday. But Friday night was my night and many times, I preferred to stay in. The way I see it, if I cannot have that time to myself to do what I need to do for myself, then I am no good to anyone else.

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Registered: 08-21-2007
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 5:41am

I do understand the need for alone time once the r-ship has been established or even more so if a couple are living togehter...but at a month's mark? Isn't that the time when the two people can't get enough of each other and want to spend as much time together as possible? In my experience, if a man really is into a woman he's only just started seeing, he will not choose to spend a Friday night alone at home when he has a chance to spend it with her. I could understand midweek because of work and other committments but Friday? Some years back I was in exactly the same situation: 32, seeing a man of 28 (except we met in a club). I wasn't insanely into him yet I was reasonably content and assumed at the time that as we were supposedly 'gf and bf' we were going to be spending at least Fridays and Saturdays together, overnight at his or mine. I'd wait for him to contact me to make weekend plans.. he would, eventually - every couple of weeks, for one night of the weekend... he faded out after about 3 months. My current bf with whom I've been for 3.5 years now and living together for almost a year of that time, was a completely different story alltogether...at the beginning, he pursued me like I was the last woman

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 9:19am

I'm not sure why you consider it a bombshell that he needs a night to relax and recover from the work-week.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2007
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 10:28am
Dump him. If you need more than one night a week with the guy and he's not complying, then he obviously doesn't care about making you happy. If a guy is into you then he WANTS to be there. I know it may be hard to hear but I wouldn't want you to waste your time on a selfish a-hole.
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 11:10am

Wow. That's so one-sided I'm not quite sure what to say.


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Would you say to him, had he posted "if you need one night a week to recharge your batteries, and she's not complying, then she obviously doesn't care about making you happy."



iVillage Member
Registered: 01-26-2006
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 11:16am
I think you are way, WAY overreacting.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-26-2006
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 11:17am
And this is why guys have problems dating some women...that is a really petty reason to call someone an a-hole.
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Registered: 05-19-2003
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 11:44am

Dump him. If you need more than one night a week with the guy and he's not complying, then he obviously doesn't care about making you happy. If a guy is into you then he WANTS to be there. I know it may be hard to hear but I wouldn't want you to waste your time on a selfish a-hole.




Wow! Where did that come from? Overreact much!

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Registered: 06-26-2007
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 12:40pm

While I LOVE my Friday nights because my boyfriend works and I get to go home and watch my soaps from that week - I've also been with my guy for YEARS!

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