Is this normal???

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Is this normal???
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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 10:18pm

Hello!

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Wed, 10-03-2007 - 1:14pm

I totally agree with almost all of the other responses. It's nice to have some alone time. I wouldn't want to feel obligated to spend a certain day each week with someone, particularly Fridays.

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Wed, 10-03-2007 - 6:18pm

I have read through the other responses, and I have a slightly different take.

First, I also enjoy my alone time and agree that Friday nights are a good night to crash on the couch and not do much after a long week. So, I agree that you shouldn't panic if he wants to do that from time to time.

However, I dated a man for five years who was incredibly protective and possessive of his alone time. We'd spend the weekend together, but he'd practically kick me out on Sunday at 10 a.m. That wasn't a big deal - I liked having Sunday afternoons to run errands, go to the gym and just do my thing.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Wed, 10-03-2007 - 6:27pm

Thank you all so much for the replies!

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Thu, 10-04-2007 - 8:44am

I don't have a big chest and he's let me know he likes big breasts and he's all about women who've had breast implants.

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Thu, 10-04-2007 - 10:54am
>>I don't have a big chest and he's let me know he likes big breasts and he's all about women who've had breast implants.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Thu, 10-04-2007 - 12:15pm

Hi Michelle, I'm reading this thread only now, and may be repeating what others have said. I think some nights away from each other is totally normal in a good relationship, and whether or not it's spent alone or with friends really isn't relevant. I wouldn't worry about anything just yet based on that; however this other issue is what concerns me:

"I don't have a big chest and he's let me know he likes big breasts and he's all about women who've had breast implants. I have NEVER had a guy tell me he'd be all for me getting breast implants and all of them have liked my chest up until this guy."

Uh, excuse me? That's simply degrading. That's no way to talk to someone you're trying to start a relationship with! (His attitude and comments could actually get worse over time, and leave you feeling like crap about yourself.) How did you reply to his comment about your breasts? Or was it a more passive comment? Guys can be silly about that topic...could he have misunderstood your openness to the discussion? Still, I would have let him know immediately that he couldn't talk to me that way (even if he was passively implying something about my breasts) if he really wants to be part of my life. But then again, I wouldn't give him another opportunity to be part of my life after that.
I like to date guys who don't start out thinking of what they want to change about me, and not to mention changes that require surgery are a lot different than, say, a new pair of shoes or the like.

Definitely pay attention to the signs you've been getting and go with your intuition about this guy.

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Thu, 10-04-2007 - 5:30pm

With the comments he made about my breasts, I did start the conversation

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Thu, 10-04-2007 - 7:23pm
Sounds like he has watched one too many pornos - it seems like he's got a really unrealistic view of what the human body should look like.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Thu, 10-04-2007 - 9:15pm

And that's different because????


Don't we all have a skewed view of what our bodies should look like?

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Thu, 10-04-2007 - 11:15pm

Well, I just thought I'd let everyone know that