Is this normal???

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Is this normal???
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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 10:18pm

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Registered: 01-26-2005
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 9:09am

I'm glad you brought up how shallow he is, even for the sake of letting him know he isn't what YOU are looking for either.

"I could have seen this becoming a very controlling relationship, so it's probably a good thing that I scared him away."

I was thinking the same thing as I read your post! Also, earlier when you said he got mad that you called him while he was out of town, but he was calling you all the other nights, that was a huge red flag that he's a control freak.

You are much better off without a guy like that in your life!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 2:12pm

"Since we were ending it, I asked him about the plastic surgery thing and told him he was the most shallow man I'd ever met.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 2:24pm

>>Don't we all have a skewed view of what our bodies should look like?

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 3:47pm

Wow, I'm glad you brought the shallow stuff up too and that he admitted some things. Good riddance! It obviously wasn't a good match and he just saved you lots of time, stress and worry.


Good luck to him finding his big-boobed, bimbo to keep him arms warm, at his convenience.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 6:45pm

That's what I meant by him taking it to the extreme.

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Registered: 09-07-2007
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 11:10pm

Yes you are overreacting.

Chelle-

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Registered: 10-06-2007
Sat, 10-06-2007 - 9:45am
Ugh, these are the things that I hate about men. So just an ousiders view. So the first thing that jumped out at me is do you ever see each other Sat. night? For some crazy reason that just seems to feel right. He may be up to no good or he truly needs some down time. Why it was so secretative I don't get. He may have felt that he would hurt your feelings if he told you the truth. But truth is first and foremost. Without it, get out now. Could he be married? (Might explain why he can't get away on Sat. night? Any signs of that...like do you have his home tel #, know where he lives, etc. Trust me, it happened to me and it was just awful. I think an honest discussion about what you both are looking for in this relationship may be in order. I do know that I require a lot of down time just for me, hemay be the same. Don't freak out yet, just do some quiet observing and ask where he sees you both. If you think that this is too soon for this type of conversation, try to sit back and if you want to, go with the flow. But don't accept evasiveness and let him know that without honesty and trust you are outta there. Good luck.
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Registered: 10-06-2007
Sun, 10-07-2007 - 11:03am
I'm really sorry to say this to you, but it is what I would advise my bf. Dump him. He sounds like a real, shallow loser. That whole breast/penis thing is very creepy. He should have a big "L" on his forehead. You can do so much better. Who wants a relationship with someone that starts like this. Run.
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