Is this normal?

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Is this normal?
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Sat, 01-28-2006 - 5:42pm

Someone has been interested in me since mid November. We went out a few times and spoke on the phone a few times a day. He recently offered to take me to Aruba for 10 days 01/28. I do not know him well enough and have a few things things I am taking care of and didn't feel comfortable.

Earlier this week he brought me flowers and chocolate because I had been sick. We still spoke every day. He hadn't mentioned Aruba in a week so I didn't think he was even going. He mentioned may be March. He calls me yesterday and says he wanted to be upfront. He had to go on vacation and he asked a former girlfriend to go with him and they were leaving the next day. We spoke every day and he had every opportunity. He mentioned going for a hair cut during the week... but didn't mention going tanning???

I understand, we weren't a "couple". I am just disappointed in his character. For weeks and weeks he's been "crazy about me". Even when he called to tell me about going, he was saying how he and I have the same goals, he enjoyed my company, blah blah blah and he hoped this wouldn't impact our relationship. He had even asked a close friend of mine if she thought he was ruining any chances with me by going.

I was actually starting to like him more and wanted to see where things went. On one hand I am very happy for him on the other, I am very disappointed in his character. I am worth way more than this and for him to actually think I'd want to get to know him better after he's spent 10 days in Aruba with another woman and the same room is NUTS. A few weeks ago I met his daughters, he's been to my house, met my children, met some very close friends of mine, spoke daily, and he's in Aruba with an exgirlfriend I didn't even know anything about. He even called me several times last night; however, I was out and didn't call him back. I'm feeling foolish.

1. Am I over reacting or was this really a crappy thing?
2. Would anyone else accept this?
3. Is it best to just let it go and when he returns, always be busy (we have some mutual friends), or tell him how disappointed I am and I do not see any relationship in the future.
4. What kind of guy would do this? Is this the action of a nice guy?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 01-28-2006 - 7:05pm

I don't understand why he'd invite you on vacation if you weren't a couple.