>> I often find myself attracted to tough guys, guy's guys. Almost every guy I've dated has been an athlete in some shape or form;
Oh but that's natural. The diminutive, vulnerable, fragile female seeking protection (for herself and her future babies) from the tough, masculine male. It all works in your subconscious :->
>>Oh but that's natural. The diminutive, vulnerable, fragile female seeking protection (for herself and her future babies) from the tough, masculine male. It all works in your subconscious :->
That's exactly the situation I'm in, and strangely, it seems to be working out. I've been on several dates with a guy who even when I first met him I thought, ok, this guy is definitely on the surface not someone I'd usually go for-- the guy's I've always gone for have always been pretty thin, not into sports at all, more artsy, intellectual-- but I said to myself, just go with it and see what happens. I've always rejected guys like this one-- he's more into sports and a little overweight but goes to the gym a lot, has a blue-collar job, not as intellectual as the artsy men I've dated or just lusted after, not mysterious and very too the point-- however, I gave him a chance and he's been the easiest to date. No mind games, pretty straight-forward, and he puts in a lot of effort, whereas with the other guys I've usually gone after, I've had to do more of the work and always at some point ended up finding myself in tears. Not good obviously. Also, unlike the other guys I've dated, he at least seems to really want to get to know me before jumping into bed, which is quite a change because in the past I let myself get physical too fast and they didn't care to get to know me really-- and then of course I end up hearing the words, "I really can't handle a serious commited relationship right now."
So sure, if you get to talk to any of these guys who aren't your usual type, just go with it. Really, you may end up surprised the way I've been. Call it dating-out-of-the-box maybe. I think sometimes we have to stifle what we are usually attracted to because although a certain type may be really appealing for us, it doesn't mean they are totally right for us in the end, nor see us as their type. In my case, the good-looking artsy types have ended up being emotionally available or into other women while dating me, so maybe it's just life's or God's way of saying, you've been completely off track, now here I present you what you should really be after, so think about it and don't blow it! ;-)
>>I've always rejected guys like this one-- he's more into sports and a little overweight but goes to the gym a lot, has a blue-collar job, not as intellectual as the artsy men I've dated or just lusted after, not mysterious and very too the point
>> I often find myself attracted to tough guys, guy's guys. Almost every guy I've dated has been an athlete in some shape or form;
Oh but that's natural. The diminutive, vulnerable, fragile female seeking protection (for herself and her future babies) from the tough, masculine male. It all works in your subconscious :->
Edited 10/19/2007 2:14 pm ET by capegirardeau
>>Oh but that's natural. The diminutive, vulnerable, fragile female seeking protection (for herself and her future babies) from the tough, masculine male. It all works in your subconscious :->
Yes, I know.
That's exactly the situation I'm in, and strangely, it seems to be working out. I've been on several dates with a guy who even when I first met him I thought, ok, this guy is definitely on the surface not someone I'd usually go for-- the guy's I've always gone for have always been pretty thin, not into sports at all, more artsy, intellectual-- but I said to myself, just go with it and see what happens. I've always rejected guys like this one-- he's more into sports and a little overweight but goes to the gym a lot, has a blue-collar job, not as intellectual as the artsy men I've dated or just lusted after, not mysterious and very too the point-- however, I gave him a chance and he's been the easiest to date. No mind games, pretty straight-forward, and he puts in a lot of effort, whereas with the other guys I've usually gone after, I've had to do more of the work and always at some point ended up finding myself in tears. Not good obviously. Also, unlike the other guys I've dated, he at least seems to really want to get to know me before jumping into bed, which is quite a change because in the past I let myself get physical too fast and they didn't care to get to know me really-- and then of course I end up hearing the words, "I really can't handle a serious commited relationship right now."
So sure, if you get to talk to any of these guys who aren't your usual type, just go with it. Really, you may end up surprised the way I've been. Call it dating-out-of-the-box maybe. I think sometimes we have to stifle what we are usually attracted to because although a certain type may be really appealing for us, it doesn't mean they are totally right for us in the end, nor see us as their type. In my case, the good-looking artsy types have ended up being emotionally available or into other women while dating me, so maybe it's just life's or God's way of saying, you've been completely off track, now here I present you what you should really be after, so think about it and don't blow it! ;-)
I like your perspective on this!
>>I've always rejected guys like this one-- he's more into sports and a little overweight but goes to the gym a lot, has a blue-collar job, not as intellectual as the artsy men I've dated or just lusted after, not mysterious and very too the point
Haha, maybe we should switch!