Observation for the Day

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Observation for the Day
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Tue, 11-27-2012 - 9:50am

I dont know if this happens to you guys but there are some days that I dont care if I am alone and single and then there are other days I hate it with a passion I want to die.

So now even if I want someone what is that telling the Universe? Its sort of confusing and mixed messages.. and that isnt good..

I am studying and learning and doing alot of metaphysical stuff and according to these gurus we have to be very specific in what we want and ask for it and find ways to get it..

Maybe I am just depressed and getting more cynical and tired of it all and the singles scene.. I mean for goodness sake being single at 58 and doing the scene is becoming more and more shall i use the word ridiculous.. I cant see myself even dating anymore because it doesnt even feel comfortable and there is something quite not right about it..and most people over 50 I am finding out do not really want to date nor are into it. They just want to meet and move in or take it fast because lets face it there isnt a whole lot of time left .

I just want to accept the fact that I am alone and might remain that way and feel good about it but I have that knawing feeling sometimes that it hurts to be alone too much.

 

 

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 11-28-2012 - 9:23pm
I like being single. I do not have someone underfoot. I depend on myself. Yes i would like a sexual friend but don't want a stifling "relationship" with someone who wants to "control" or own me. Social life where I live is null. There really is no much in this town. There are some meet-ups but they are expensive and far away.

chaika

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Registered: 11-21-2012
Mon, 12-03-2012 - 11:52am

You need to remember why you are single.  I too am single due to divorce.  When I feel depressed about being alone I just think about what it was like when I was still married and that always cheers me up.  I do date people now but have no intention of ever getting married again.  All of my relationships now involve getting together once or twice a week (rarely more often) and enjoying my time with a significant other and my time alone.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Tue, 12-04-2012 - 10:31am

I am divorced def. for a very good reason.. and yes I think about that but that doesnt mean all men are like my abusive ex.. For me its been so many years in between the divorce and a rebound relationship and now I would just like someone for atleast some sort of relationship (lol)

I do have enough to keep me busy but it would be nice having someone around for the good and bad times.

take care

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