Oh *amn! I relate to Jennifer Aniston!!

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Oh *amn! I relate to Jennifer Aniston!!
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Thu, 02-21-2008 - 2:29pm

My post could triggers fears about being single so don't read if you are feeling sensitive in this way....


I was in Rite Aid today and I quickly checked out a front page article on Jennifer Aniston.

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Tue, 02-26-2008 - 11:48pm

Hugs to everyone out there who feels like Jennifer Aniston or has a lot of Bridget Jones moments (ya know, drinking wine all by youcself, singing with tears to love songs) ...
That age, hmm. I will turn 30 this year. Sometimes I catch myself thinking like when I wanna have kids and marry I need to find the guy for that at x age, when I don't continue a relationship with guy x I run out of time for having a family, when I settle down for less than I want I might end up getting a divorce before having kids and might be too old to even start a family...eeek. 3 years I ago I was relaxed and couldn't even imagine being a mother, now I am like would I be able to deal with not finding the guy I wanna marry until it's too late for getting pregnant??? ...I ask myself these questions knowing friends who missed the chance..or never got one. One just turned 40 and always wanted to have kids, one beauty is 34 and can't even find a casual bf lest alone someone who would not be committment phobic.
And one with 32 will never have kids because her guy already has 4 from a previous marriage and doesn't want anymore.

Someone in a bulletin online once called this the "age game"....

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 2:07am

we all wonder "WHAT IF" what if we had stayed instead of left, what if we had done something different so he didnt leave, what if we had talked to that guy etc...and yes even for jennifer aniston who has money and fame and famous friends she is still a normal person inside and she has feelings. but these articles are coming from gossip magazines, brad and jennifer have been broken up for quite a while now, she has been seen out with a few different guys and we all assume they are dating of course. but who says all these things that these magazines say are actually the things jennifer is feeling!? are any of them actual interviews with her? or is it that they seen her out by herself or in fact havent seen her out in a while, so they assume its over brad? maybe she is trying to avoid the paparazzi! we can not compare our lives to these celebrities who live completely different lives than us, we dont even know if there is truth to how they are "feeling". we need to do what makes US happy, whether it be staying in or going out. we all deserve our time to heal after a break up regardless of how long ago it happen, but its our life and our relationship, other people may have similar issues but we have to live for ourselves. and we have to believe in our selves, no more wasting time wondering if we made a mistake. at the time it was what we wanted! and there is nothing wrong with that!! we should live with no regrets and live every day to its fullest. if it didnt work out its probably because it wasnt meant to...if we are always looking behind us we cant be looking forward!

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 10:33am
Hi lv2breathe:

 

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 1:50pm

First of all, there is rarely an ounce of truth to ANY gossip mag.

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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 2:25am
you know, when i turned 30, i looked around and realized that things were not how i'd expected they be - thought i'd be on the marriage/kids/etc. track by then, and in an established career. instead, i was still renting (and losing places to a housing market that screamed "sell!), still in bad jobs, and all of my relationships for the previous 4 years were bad - and the 6 year relationship from my early 20's had ended badly. i realized that a lot of my life hadn't turned out the way i wanted precisley because of those relationships - i kept putting my own life on hold all those years. so i went to thailand for my birthday and came back and spent a year figuring out what i wanted and getting it. why didn't i own a house? because i was waiting to get one w/ my husband. well, maybe that wasn't in the cards for me. so i bought a house! and career? i needed to finish my degree. so i enrolled at the university. i took my dog and my cats and moved 2 hours away to be closer to school, and focus on ME for a change. you know what? it was wonderful. i really enjoyed making all my priorities about ME for a change. there's something to be said for being single. and within a couple years, just when i least expected, i did meet a man and he turned out to be fantastic (for real!), and we are still together 4 years later. i decided i was NEVER willing to settle, because i spent over a decade "settling" for a lot and my life was stagnant. i was actually reluctant to give up my single status, this guy really had to prove himself. i say, take care of yourself, and do what makes you happy, and don't let the cultural crap tell you there's something wrong with you! jennifer aniston is an accomplished, sexy, beautiful person, and i doubt she spends her nights sitting around wondering where she went wrong in her life, no matter what the tabloids say.
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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 11:35am
STOP IT!
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Fri, 02-29-2008 - 10:26am

Okay, I didn't read all the posts but I'm gonna give you the .02 from a married gal's perspective.

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Fri, 02-29-2008 - 6:02pm
I too came from the Women are Talking thingie - just wanted to chime in - I was married at 22, divorced at 26, and bitter for quite some time after, lol. Yep, 30 hit like a ton of bricks - well, actually (and oddly) it was 29 that hit hard because it was ALMOST 30, lol.
I was dead-end dating a guy just so I'd have a guy, not really happy. I'm so glad the age hit as hard as it did! It made me re-examine my life. I dumped the guy, took a traveling job, broke my lease, donated most of my stuff, packed up my dog & moved west!
30 and single - one of the best years of my life! Well, actually, every year of my 30s was pretty good, and 40 isn't so bad either, at least not so far...
So for those of you approaching an age with trepidation -whatever the age is - what are you going to do about it? Totally up to you - go for it!


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