oh boy

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oh boy
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Thu, 06-12-2003 - 12:37am
This is off the topic- nothing to do with my money problems (see post below), yet relevant enough. I have went down to a police station a couple of days ago to inquire about something that has to do with my roommate stealing money from me and ... wham! I met a very handsome police officer while there. So charming and cute that I can't stop thinking about him! He gave a small hint he was interested in me (in the way he talked to me, asking about my personal life) but if you can imagine HE WAS AT WORK! after all. What should I do to get in touch with him again? I don't want to look like a pest if I go back there, I need a good good excuse to see him once more to see what develops. The last time our conversation was cut short because I just was in a hurry and I didn't realize I was interested in him until I got home and analyzed the situation. Good looking guy+steady job+great benefits+charming and polite= why pass up a chance like this? I figure, if he doesn't say anything this time around, I'll let it go and move on but how should I pursue this? Please don't tell me to just call him at work, I would rather die. I would like to come up with a good excuse to see him. Any ideas?



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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kyliebeee
Thu, 06-12-2003 - 10:00am
If you needed to analyze the situation beyond "we had a neat connection" or "I was attracted to him" - please don't waste his time treating him like a list of attributes heavily focused on money - for all you know he spends all his money on his family or is saving it all - I would hate to be asked out because I am financially comfortable and have a lucrative career. Yuk!! If he liked you that much he would have found a way to get your number. Sure you can go back there and see but frankly I hope he is looking for someone who focuses first on his qualities as a person and the connection (sure charming and polite are important and relevant - notice that that was last on your list).
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In reply to: kyliebeee
Thu, 06-12-2003 - 12:41pm


Are you kidding here? People find people that are alike. I am comfortable with my income, have a great education, etc. therefore I will not be seeking out a butcher or janitor. Quite frankly, I wouldn't even normally go for a cop (borderline trashy and too blue collar)but I would hope to find out that he's willing to advance his skills to being an attorney or like. I am dying to find out if the potential is there.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kyliebeee
Thu, 06-12-2003 - 3:23pm
After reading your response to Deena, I really have to agree with her. You are interested in this guy, but only if he aspires to have a profession different than what he currently has. You shouldn't pursue a man if you're hoping he'll change. He may be perfectly happy being a cop and may have no desire to be what you want him to be.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kyliebeee
Thu, 06-12-2003 - 3:48pm
Cool - your response said it all for me. I am a lawyer (who gave my full charitable contribution for 9/11 to the firefighters - but I guess you wouldn't have because they're too trashy, right?) who will not date anyone without at least a college education - but that doesn't mean that I size people up like you do when I'm deciding who to date - "hmmm he's a lawyer too has a good job dresses nicely and oh yes he's polite" - rather I size up the connection - and if he is not Jewish or not educated he is someone I might be friends with but not date since I only date for the purpose of finding a spouse. It's very different to want to date someone "because" of his superficial attributes - like you do - as opposed to because you have that connection and he also is suitable (for me that means jewish, educated and wants to marry and have a family) I would never date someone who didn't finish college and then try to "convince" them to go - you take people as they come - the whole package - not their "potential" or who they "might become" - at least, that's what I think - you might be well educated but well-meaning in this particular area - I have to wonder. Sooner or later you'll get "sized up" like that and rejected - maybe then you'll "get it" - but I bet not.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kyliebeee
Thu, 06-12-2003 - 3:50pm
And just to add - to the cop/lawyer thing - sure I probably have more schooling than a cop - but I also went to law school with one or two cops - but "advanced skills??" - my skills are different that a cop's skills - I probably do more research and writing, for example - but a cop has very advanced skills in areas I know nothing about and vice versa -
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kyliebeee
Thu, 06-12-2003 - 11:37pm
Ok - you are obviously disturbed in addition to being anti-semitic - if you are educated - and literate - my post said that I (not you) only date Jewish people - and I give no opinion on whether others should or should not date Jewish people - and never have and never will. I have a feeling your anti-semitic comments violate the rules here which is a good thing since we certainly don't need that type of input on this board.
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Registered: 04-28-2003
In reply to: kyliebeee
Fri, 06-13-2003 - 12:45am
Good riddance.
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In reply to: kyliebeee
Fri, 06-13-2003 - 9:21am
I hope you reported her!