Oh dear.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Oh dear.
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Fri, 09-13-2013 - 12:55am
There was a guy I was interested in back in November/December. He was interested too, but didn't want a relationship. We've seen each other/ texted regularly since then, but it's never been more than just random flirting. I didn't really think he was realationship material, given that he said he didn't want a relationship. Tonight, he pulled me into a dark corner and kissed me. And he was good at it. I want to kiss him more!!! Ugh. Why do boys do this to me!?!? I was going to take a break after the old guy called me psycho for not wanting to go out with him again!
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Registered: 05-10-2005
In reply to: shywon
Fri, 09-13-2013 - 6:55pm

Oh dear is right - it's always hard when you have some chemistry but don't want the same thing in the big picture.  I am awful at keeping things casual if I really like a guy, but if you decide to run with it, have fun!

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Registered: 02-08-2011
In reply to: shywon
Sun, 09-15-2013 - 10:22am

I'm guessing that he didn't pull you into a dark corner after dinner and flowers or any real effort like that. Sounds like after drinking and being horny on a weekend night. So all sounds the same - it's not a relationship he is after.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Sun, 09-15-2013 - 11:53am
So what? Why do you have to be so negative? It was a fun night. He's a good kisser. It made me happy. Geez.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 09-15-2013 - 5:21pm

Sometimes you just want to go for it even if you know that the guy isn't good for a relationship.  I can think of a couple of people like that I'd go for.  Enjoy it for what it is.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Sun, 09-15-2013 - 7:08pm
Exactly, Music. I like things the way they are with him. When I want to flirt, I can flirt with him and I don't have to worry that he'll take it to heart. He's never asked me to have sex with him- in fact, he's told me he wouldn't bc it would lead me on. I'm freaking out a little bc kissing changes things a bit, but I'm going to assume things will be as they were unless he explicitly states he wants otherwise. Then I'll decide if I want more. I did really like kissing him, though. It's so hard to find a good kisser these days!
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Registered: 09-11-2013
In reply to: shywon
Tue, 09-17-2013 - 5:04pm
I say have fun. If you think about it too much or expect more, then you may end up disappointed. One step at a time and see where it leads. Good luck!