Ok, help!!

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Ok, help!!
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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 12:25pm

A few things that have been on my mind...

First of all, there's this adorable guy on my morning bus who, like I've said, practically has "my type" written on his forehead. However, how the heck does one manage to talk to a guy on the bus without being creepy??

Second of all, my birthday is this Saturday, so we're looking to go out. One of my best friend's birthday is the night before and we have many of the same friends, so we're all going out together. Do any of you Bostonians or MA residents have any ideas?? My friend whose birthday it also is wants to go to a little bit fancier, more upscale lounge/club-type place and I'm all for that, too, so long as it's not COMPLETELY pretentious, expensive, and/or stuffy/boring. However, many of my friends are the more laid-back, bar type of people, so I'm not sure what to do...I tend to think they wouldn't really mind since it's a birthday thing, but I still feel a little weird about it. Opinions?

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In reply to: cml7721
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 1:03pm

regarding your #1) I know this is going to sound stupid and cliché but honestly make eye contact with the guy... and SMILE! It seems so easy but I KNOW it's hard! But you have to let him know you've noticed him and that you like what you've noticed! IF he gets the hint maybe he'll approach you - if he's too shy - it might require you approaching him!

IF you get the feeling he's noticed you too - just approach him and (I don't know where you guys are headed or for what!? so I'm shooting from the hip here) ask what part of town he's headed to? ask what he's headed to do all day? You can make it flirty.. "Hi... so where will you be spending your Tuesday?" I would really go out on a limb and say "Hi... I heard they are going to require the buddy system on the bus soon... if you're available, I'd like to snag the best looking buddy!" Okay maybe not! :p

But I recently read an article where Michael Douglas' pickup line to Catherine Zeta Jones was "I want to father your children"! http://www.theage.com.au/articles/2007/07/12/1183833645528.html

So who knows what will work! :)

I use to be very assertive... what do you have to lose!? Except that his route might change tomorrow and you might never see him again! :(

Good luck let us know what happens!

I've got nothing on #2, but I hope you have a HAPPY and fun birthday!! :)

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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 1:37pm
Maybe something along the lines of "I like your bag, dog, etc, is it a Timbuk2?" - just something to break the ice, and go from there. I tend to strike conversations in elevators (captive audience?) and at Starbucks.
I like Whiskey Park or Cuffs at the Jury's hotel. They're both little more upscale, but its fun to dress up. My two most favorite bars are Sweetwater in The Alley or Devlin's in Brighton Center.

~Heather~

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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 2:03pm

As far as your birthday venue, happy birthday BTW, why don't you just feel them out.

Do you know where he gets on and off of the bus? Is it different from where you get on and off? You could ask him about his neighborhood. Good places to eat, hang outs, etc. Or perhaps you could ask him about the rent in that part of town, whether or not it is safe - that sort of thing.

Let us know if you talk to him!

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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 3:23pm
Another idea that we did for a friend's b-day was an interactive treasure hunt thing called 5 wits. www.5-wits.com - very fun. Its over by Fenway.

~Heather~

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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 7:42pm

Start a casual conversation about the weather or something about his attire that day. And then find a slick way of asking him out.


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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 11:00am

Thanks to all for their ideas...I was kicking myself today...there have been times that I've been at the same stop as the aforementioned guy, but I've recently decided to go to another (it's just quicker). One of the buses just didn't come at all today (have I metnioned how much I love the T?), and I thought to myself, MAN...totally could have been an ice breaker. Oh well. :)

As for my birthday, turns out I think we are going to go to 33...it bugs me that the "specialty" martinis are 14 dollars, but oh well, it's fun to go somewhere fancy for birthdays. We want to get a table, but it's a $250 minimum and so far we have four people going. FOUR. For two people's birthdays! It's a little depressing and I'm not that happy about it (people that really can't go, fine, it's people that make excuses that irritate me), but we'll have fun regardless, I suppose. My birthday-friend, so to speak, suggested the table yesterday and said, "well if we have ten people it won't be that bad." Where are these people coming from?? :)

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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 11:09am

Yikes!

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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 11:47am

Well, the 14 is a bit expensive, but close to the going rate for halfway decent places in Boston. I'd say the cheapest martini I could expect to get at a lounge/club in Boston would be $10, but needless to say I won't be drinking martinis all night. I spent $10 on a vodka tonic last weekend at a place with a $15 cover. It's not even a freaking martini, I was shocked...thank goodness we didn't pay the cover.

As for that being the reason that people aren't going, I hadn't even told anyone where we were going until last night, after everyone that has turned us down had already refused. So that's definitely not the case.

And no, it's not just her. But we're definitely NOT going to spend $250 and we're not going to drink specialty martinis all night. I think a beer is 5-something, so not everything's that expensive, not even plain martinis. The only reason she said $250 would be fine with ten people is that that equals out to 25 or so a person, which definitely isn't bad, considering we'll probably get snacks as well.

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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 12:27pm

Egads!

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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 12:59pm

Ok, to be clear here, there is NO cover at this place and I don't really care if someone buys a 5-dollar beer and goes home! I'm not asking anyone to spend ANY specific amount of money, but I also don't think we'd be unreasonable to expect people to spend 25-dollars on a night out in Boston. We all live in the area, so I'm not commuting somewhere else or going to some dive bar for my birthday. All I ask is that people come. Pre-game, have a beer, have one mixed drink, spend the big bucks for a martini, I REALLY don't care! I can understand if people were pissed if we'd asked them to pay the 15 dollar cover somewhere (I'm usually against paying cover anywhere), but all they have to do is just walk in. When I say 14 dollars, I'm talking some fancy schmancy drink with fresh crushed strawberries and champagne or whatever it is...just things that we're probably not even going to drink.

Fanueil Hall is even worse, in my experience. I usually just don't go there, I'm not a huge fan of the bars around there. I like Coogan's and Ned Devine's is ok. We had a bad experience on St. Patty's, so that doesn't help...tourists paying 40-dollars to get into bars that are usually five. Umm, no thanks. We headed to Southie and had more than enough fun for 10-dollars there. :) BTW - The Playwright is a FUN bar.

Anyway, all I ask is for people to spend a little time with me, I didn't know that was such a crazy request.




Edited 7/17/2007 1:03 pm ET by cml7721

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